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Should I feel guilty about No Contact?(25 Day Challenge related)
So, it's pretty much been 25 days since I've started this journey and since we've broken up and I've used a combination of Lanie's PW and BWD (VERY LITTLE BWD), plus Veronica's text techniques, a number of Agnes Vivarelli's meditations, deep subliminals, and some scripting in my journal.
I'm going for 30 days and after that, I will try to focus more on myself, REGARDLESS of whether I hear from her or not.
I have used a few self-love meditations but I want to be more proactive in working on me.
I have to say, I'm proud of how long I've stuck in here...25 days...
The most that has happened are a few responses. But ALL OF THEM, I have initiated.
The last two being positive, though I have wanted her to send me a text (or call) on her own.
Which brings me to say that one day soon (if not tonight), I would like to send her something motivational in her Facebook Messenger, because I know she has had a rough time lately, and because the last time I called her phone and fb and texted to check up on her, she assured me she was okay and thanked me in text. And while she wasn't in a talking mood, it was a positive thing. And that gives me confidence. I will do it without expectation.
But should I feel guilty because I have been doing No Contact since then, and haven't looked at her Facebook in days? I only have been practicing not looking at it, cuz I don't want my mood to spiral down and I hate it when she's hurting, because it hurts me.
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Re: Should I feel guilty about No Contact?(25 Day Challenge related)
princessgirl87 wrote:
So, it's pretty much been 25 days since I've started this journey and since we've broken up and I've used a combination of Lanie's PW and BWD (VERY LITTLE BWD), plus Veronica's text techniques, a number of Agnes Vivarelli's meditations, deep subliminals, and some scripting in my journal.
I'm going for 30 days and after that, I will try to focus more on myself, REGARDLESS of whether I hear from her or not.
I have used a few self-love meditations but I want to be more proactive in working on me.
I have to say, I'm proud of how long I've stuck in here...25 days...
The most that has happened are a few responses. But ALL OF THEM, I have initiated.
The last two being positive, though I have wanted her to send me a text (or call) on her own.
Which brings me to say that one day soon (if not tonight), I would like to send her something motivational in her Facebook Messenger, because I know she has had a rough time lately, and because the last time I called her phone and fb and texted to check up on her, she assured me she was okay and thanked me in text. And while she wasn't in a talking mood, it was a positive thing. And that gives me confidence. I will do it without expectation.
But should I feel guilty because I have been doing No Contact since then, and haven't looked at her Facebook in days? I only have been practicing not looking at it, cuz I don't want my mood to spiral down and I hate it when she's hurting, because it hurts me.
I can very well relate to your emotions right now. First of all do not feel guilty of anything. Not even the fact that you are not contacting her. Secondly, if u are confident enough that she is responding to u in positive way, then I don't feel there is any necessity to go into no contact. For me that would be more of egoism than love. In love you do not weigh how many times somebody calls you. You love her unconditionally and in unconditional love, ego has no place at all. So I would better suggest that if she has been responding positively off late and has not asked to stay away from her, then you should break the no contact series and try calling her. But just don't force things on her. Keep it simple and just let her know that you are there for her help if at all she needs it. Just do not force her to tell what is hurting her if she does not feel comfortable to share it ryt now. Talk to her but in the same time give her some space. In doing this, you would b happy that you are in talk with her and who knows she might feel the ignition happening again in her heart.
Lots of love for both of you.
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Re: Should I feel guilty about No Contact?(25 Day Challenge related)
So, it's pretty much been 25 days since I've started this journey and since we've broken up and I've used a combination of Lanie's PW and BWD (VERY LITTLE BWD), plus Veronica's text techniques, a number of Agnes Vivarelli's meditations, deep subliminals, and some scripting in my journal.
I'm going for 30 days and after that, I will try to focus more on myself, REGARDLESS of whether I hear from her or not.
I have used a few self-love meditations but I want to be more proactive in working on me.
I have to say, I'm proud of how long I've stuck in here...25 days...
The most that has happened are a few responses. But ALL OF THEM, I have initiated.
The last two being positive, though I have wanted her to send me a text (or call) on her own.
Which brings me to say that one day soon (if not tonight), I would like to send her something motivational in her Facebook Messenger, because I know she has had a rough time lately, and because the last time I called her phone and fb and texted to check up on her, she assured me she was okay and thanked me in text. And while she wasn't in a talking mood, it was a positive thing. And that gives me confidence. I will do it without expectation.
But should I feel guilty because I have been doing No Contact since then, and haven't looked at her Facebook in days? I only have been practicing not looking at it, cuz I don't want my mood to spiral down and I hate it when she's hurting, because it hurts me.I can very well relate to your emotions right now. First of all do not feel guilty of anything. Not even the fact that you are not contacting her. Secondly, if u are confident enough that she is responding to u in positive way, then I don't feel there is any necessity to go into no contact. For me that would be more of egoism than love. In love you do not weigh how many times somebody calls you. You love her unconditionally and in unconditional love, ego has no place at all. So I would better suggest that if she has been responding positively off late and has not asked to stay away from her, then you should break the no contact series and try calling her. But just don't force things on her. Keep it simple and just let her know that you are there for her help if at all she needs it. Just do not force her to tell what is hurting her if she does not feel comfortable to share it ryt now. Talk to her but in the same time give her some space. In doing this, you would b happy that you are in talk with her and who knows she might feel the ignition happening again in her heart.
Lots of love for both of you.
Thanks again for your response...I was gonna send her something motivational but wanted to wait after I reached the 30 day mark and start on a self love regimen...but now I'm wondering if I should start on that regimen 2 days early... I liked two posts of hers yesterday...no comments, no messages, just likes, and felt proud of her work and calm. Today I'm feeling kinda eh...
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Re: Should I feel guilty about No Contact?(25 Day Challenge related)
I'm on Day 8 of the MDRE regimen from Must Spark Joy website and thinking of combining that with the 25 day challenge.
I'm taking the challenge again!
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