This is very confusing...

He has a woman... Yet he is doing stuff with you... It's very clear his cheating. If he can cheat on other women then he could also cheat on you. Someone like that is never trusted.

You deserve much better, how long are you going to hold on to this man who is a player. Having few ex's because it didn't go well is normal but having one person and going to visit another without good intentions or having more than a freindship should be an instant break up.

You need to set very clear boundaries and teach him how he can treat you and how he can't.  This isn't to say that you won't have a relationship with him in the future, but it is clear to me that he needs to grow up and change before that happens.  As he is at the moment, he doesn't sound like a good bet. I don't know what he is coming round for, but if he is coming round for casual sex you need to stop it as he is having his cupcakes, eating them all with cherries on top if so!  Also, be honest with yourself about the 4 year relationship you had with him - how good was it?  How well did he treat you?  You might have to manifest a total new relationship with him (manifesting him back as he is, right at this minute, seems a bad idea to me) but for that he has to change his ways and so do you (as in don't settle for crumbs from him) and it won't be overnight.  Let him see you are not pining, having a life without him, and stop paying his gym membership, please! Others may have more in-depth advice for you. 

Last edited by PrettyFlamingo (2/25/2017 7:12 pm)

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