I honestly don't know what to say anymore.   It has honestly reached the "Wtf" point.     I would expect someone to be like this the first few months after the breakup, but you're close to a year(maybe more)      It's honestly sad, I was pretty bad and even pretty obsessive.  But even I didn't react this bad when my ex got a new bf

CR is right.  Nobody can give you faith except you, we could give you 1000 pep talks a day, but it won't matter until you actually start believing you can achieve it

You say you love yourself and happy with yourself and all other aspects of your life is good.   I won't say you're wrong, but it seems like you aren't enjoying that stuff as much because you're too busy focusing on her     It seems like everything you do. Is to get her back.   Nothing you do is for yourself

I'll be real with you, I don't think you're gonna get her back anytime soon    Does that mean you'll never get her back?  No.   But at this moment, you probably won't be back with her for awhile. Until you change this obsessive mindset.  Dude, you don't NEED her.  You act like your life depends on her, you act like if you don't get her back you'll die

Most people would be happy as hell that they just got a new job and a new apartment, you may be excited.  But it doesn't seem you are enjoying it to the top level you could, in the back of your mind it's almost like it doesn't mean much cause you don't have her

You believe in yourself in all other aspects, but you can't believe in yourself that you can get her back?   I don't understand, you might not get her back tomorrow, but if you start having faith. You'll get her back when you least expect it

How can you get that faith?  I don't think I or anyone else can tell you, it's just something that clicks inside that finally allows you to believe.

YesIWILL wrote:

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

No one can give you faith, you find it in yourself. And in my opinion, faith doesn't sound like what you need. If you don't work on your anxiety and heal whatever issues you have, you'll just prolong all of this suffering...and become more of the obsessed, needy stalker you're turning into.

Nope. What I need is faith. Nothing else gives me any anxiety. I see a therapist too for this subject of her. But yeah. Once I have faith I can attract her back, then I'll be golden. Right now the lack of belief that I can get her back is what is causing me the anxiety that I feel and have been feeling all this time. The situations like the ones in my first post just add to it

But you looked for it. What were you hoping to find on her Facebook page? I know we've all done it. Because someone likes a picture doesn't always mean anything. Perhaps you are attaching too much meaning to it.

If you were to attract her back today,  what would you 2 do?   It really seems like all you do is wonder about her, post about her,  talk to a therapist(probably friends and family too) about her. You need to have a happy and full life to welcome her into.  It's nothing appealing about how things are going now.  The person she is pictured with is probably someone is is enjoying life with. Instead of feeling like life is over because she has friends, become a person that is fitting to be friends with.

Feeling good today. Work is productive and I'm eating pizza so that's a win. Just wanted to keep you all updated

Dan2015 wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

Feeling good today. Work is productive and I'm eating pizza so that's a win. Just wanted to keep you all updated

Any day you can eat pizza,, its a win.'

 I know it's tough, but you just need other things to concentrate your thought on...  for example think about how you continue want to improve your new place(that's a big one, you really should be proud of yourself)

Thank you so much for the advice! Yeah I am so proud of myself! I can find things that make me happy, it's just with her... you know. But I'm feeling well so that's good! Maybe fear is just leaking into my gut, convincing me of the worst idk hahah'