Sorry you're feeling like this but getting upset because someone doesn't "like" a Facebook post is alien to me.

I'm sure you have more positive evidence to focus on, as you have told us.

Seriously I wouldn't dwell on it, just do good stuff for yourself so you feel positive. Plan a good weekend.

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Almost daily, my best friend tags me in best friend videos or pictures. It is so common that I can see videos and know that she will tag me. If the day comes(and it has) where she doesn't tag me or she tags another one of her friends - I don't have to take it bad. Not being tagged doesn't mean she doesn't care for me anymore, that she has replaced me or anything like that.  It just means I wasn't tagged because maybe she felt like she was annoying me, maybe she felt like she was neglecting her other friends, maybe she got busy, maybe she intended to and "lost" the post. Do you see what I did here?  I came up with all of these reasons that don't reflect anything negative about myself. That's what you should do.

Remember what we talked about, about being tested. You were on such a high and doing so good. Don't let that slip away because it feels so much better than you feel now.  Be grateful that he is still on your friends list. Be grateful that you're bonded by something so sweet. Be grateful that you DON'T have major problems and remind yourself that a like is something small.  You're his girl, you have something special with him - don't forget or doubt this.

 

MadMoiselle87 wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

Almost daily, my best friend tags me in best friend videos or pictures. It is so common that I can see videos and know that she will tag me. If the day comes(and it has) where she doesn't tag me or she tags another one of her friends - I don't have to take it bad. Not being tagged doesn't mean she doesn't care for me anymore, that she has replaced me or anything like that.  It just means I wasn't tagged because maybe she felt like she was annoying me, maybe she felt like she was neglecting her other friends, maybe she got busy, maybe she intended to and "lost" the post. Do you see what I did here?  I came up with all of these reasons that don't reflect anything negative about myself. That's what you should do.

Remember what we talked about, about being tested. You were on such a high and doing so good. Don't let that slip away because it feels so much better than you feel now.  Be grateful that he is still on your friends list. Be grateful that you're bonded by something so sweet. Be grateful that you DON'T have major problems and remind yourself that a like is something small.  You're his girl, you have something special with him - don't forget or doubt this.

 

You're right!

Thanks so much honey! I'm feeling better right now already. And he tagged me in a comment today lol.

You're right I shouldn't always expect the worst. We have that special bound who never could be replaced by any kind of girl. And I should remember about sweet special stuff like the video which always makes me smile

You're so awesome thanks a lot for pushing my mood and remember me that our bound is so much stronger than anything

You're welcome love.  Nothing good will come from that road you were heading down. I'll drag you out. LOL

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

All this over a FB like??? Man...



There are many people in this world I love and like....but sometimes I just don't give them thank yous, or thumbs up, or likes....because, like Donald Trump, they say really dumb ****. I mean....I have to unlearn English, learn Spanish, and then relearn English again just to pure my mind of all that dumb stuff. That's how busy I am. And then if I give this person a like, I gotta give someone else a like to keep the peace. Ain't nobody got time for that. So I ain't giving no likes, they all get zero haha. And sometimes, genuinely, I'm just too lazy to log in and give a damn...I mean give a like. Literally, my index finger will be like "No man, gotta save my energy for eating dinner. Using knives and forks is a lot of work." Again, doesn't mean I don't care...I'm just too much of an asshole set in my ways to show it. Meh, what can you do?



You're tired, you're stressed out, and now you're worried about not getting a like on FB. Sounds like you need to give yourself some TLC. You already got a nice V-day message, focus on how good that was and just relax, get some rest, listen to good music, take care of yourself. Naturally, you'll feel better and your thoughts on this will shift. Meditate. It really helps you to be aware of your negative thoughts instead of being swept away by them.

 

Haha Colonel 😂🙈 yeah you're right ... it's really not necessary to overthink that. It's just I'm like a little girl on Christmas if he likes something you know? It's just i kinda expected that he would. Aaaanyway ..

And thank you I'm feeling better right now but do you have an advice for me if this crappy thoughts come in?

Btw I love Ron :D

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

1. Eat cookies. With burgers and fries. Maybe some fried chicken.

Nah, jk.

1. Meditate.

2. Let the thoughts pass through you. Most of the time, we think negative because we feel negative. if you just let the feeling pass through you, be aware of it, feel the sadness without judgement, you'll feel and think much better in time.

3. Find better-feeling thoughts about the situation. Basically, remind yourself that Facebook likes are really meaningless and that the love you seek has many different ways of reaching you, and most importantly - the love you seek is already within you, just feel the love - not to force anything - but for yourself, because it's fun.

4. Remind yourself that thoughts can't really hurt you and what you do matters - have fun, go for walks, eat good food.

5. Find inspirational quotes that help you awake from the funk. Save it on your phone or a notecard or something. My favorite right now is "Happiness is not in having what you want, it comes from appreciating what you already have." This reminds me that right now I have a moment to create a really passionate life. The only reason I want love is because I want passion and excitement and fun. But right now, regardless of what the conditions are, I can act on what I'm passionate about and find that love and fun already here. The more you follow your own inner wisdom, the less and less the negative thoughts will haunt you.


 

Wow thanks for your help! By now I always tried to fight the feeling but I think it's a good thing to just feel through it without overthinking it.

And I definitely have to meditate more again! I already have a file on my phone with loa quotes guess I really should read them instead of going crazy lol.