Sanshi wrote:

AceWay123 wrote:

I just want to add that getting your specific person is possible..

Of course it is possible. Anything is possible. But it isn't possible with that "I will make that happen and try very hard" mindset, at least not in my experience. If we could all implement that light "Wouldn't it be nice if?" mindset, the forum would be deserted within two weeks.
 

Sanshi, that's so true! I have manifested so much when I just stop thinking about it but do you have any advice how I can stop thinking about him all the time? And, that "wouldn't it be nice if" mindset is very important to have. So, do you think not having expectations is key?

AceWay123 wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

AceWay123 wrote:

I just want to add that getting your specific person is possible..

Of course it is possible. Anything is possible. But it isn't possible with that "I will make that happen and try very hard" mindset, at least not in my experience. If we could all implement that light "Wouldn't it be nice if?" mindset, the forum would be deserted within two weeks.
 

That is completely true.

The forum has had a lot of negative posts recently. Few people put up some success but there are few who still struggling and losing faith because they try too hard.

Naturally trying too hard also drains you, because you do everything you can but stay in the same spot. You don't allow things to go with time so you give up.

I agree with you Ace, believing that we have to do something is extremely draining. I will stop doing that. Thank you

Blessedck wrote:

Sanshi, that's so true! I have manifested so much when I just stop thinking about it but do you have any advice how I can stop thinking about him all the time? And, that "wouldn't it be nice if" mindset is very important to have. So, do you think not having expectations is key?

Your thoughts are your choice. You think about him all the time, because it's a habit. If you didn't know about LoA, you probably hadn't thought about him in a long time, because you had known that you had to move on with your life. I think that's the dangerous thing about LoA. You become a control freak.

Blessedck wrote:

Why do we get our manifestations when we don't expect them anymore?

I think there are two different forms of expectations, the true and the false ones. The expectations that manifest things are what we just know. You expect the milk you put in your fridge an hour ago to be still there when you look after it now. You know it has to be there, because you put it there. Even if someone would tell you to stop expecting it to be there, you couldn't, because you know it. That's true expectation. There is no fear or doubt in it. You don't stand in front of your fridge and think "Will it be there? I hope it will be there, when I open the door". No, that's stupid, because you know that it is there. Do you really expect him to be back with this strong expectation or is it more "Okay, to make LoA work, I have to expect him to come back. So he will come back, I know it...hopefully. I am a little afraid that he won't come back, but stop it..he will come back!". You won't stand before your fridge with those type of thoughts, right? When you expect something, when you know something, you don't have to think about it all the time, because you know it. When you have to think about it all the time, it's a sure sign that you don't expect it and you don't know it. I think that's a very good point I am making here (sorry if that sounds arrogant, but I am impressed by myself right now ). Think about it. What were the things you thought much about in the past? In my case, many of them were linked with uncertain situations. Will I get this job? Will I pass this test? Will I get the university place? Will I get the guy? In all this cases, I didn't expect it to happen, I hoped for it to happen. Some things did happen, some didn't. All the things that happened effortlessly were stuff I hadn't thought about so much before it happened.
 

Sanshi wrote:

Blessedck wrote:

Sanshi, that's so true! I have manifested so much when I just stop thinking about it but do you have any advice how I can stop thinking about him all the time? And, that "wouldn't it be nice if" mindset is very important to have. So, do you think not having expectations is key?

Your thoughts are your choice. You think about him all the time, because it's a habit. If you didn't know about LoA, you probably hadn't thought about him in a long time, because you had known that you had to move on with your life. I think that's the dangerous thing about LoA. You become a control freak.

Blessedck wrote:

Why do we get our manifestations when we don't expect them anymore?

I think there are two different forms of expectations, the true and the false ones. The expectations that manifest things are what we just know. You expect the milk you put in your fridge an hour ago to be still there when you look after it now. You know it has to be there, because you put it there. Even if someone would tell you to stop expecting it to be there, you couldn't, because you know it. That's true expectation. There is no fear or doubt in it. You don't stand in front of your fridge and think "Will it be there? I hope it will be there, when I open the door". No, that's stupid, because you know that it is there. Do you really expect him to be back with this strong expectation or is it more "Okay, to make LoA work, I have to expect him to come back. So he will come back, I know it...hopefully. I am a little afraid that he won't come back, but stop it..he will come back!". You won't stand before your fridge with those type of thoughts, right? When you expect something, when you know something, you don't have to think about it all the time, because you know it. When you have to think about it all the time, it's a sure sign that you don't expect it and you don't know it. I think that's a very good point I am making here (sorry if that sounds arrogant, but I am impressed by myself right now ). Think about it. What were the things you thought much about in the past? In my case, many of them were linked with uncertain situations. Will I get this job? Will I pass this test? Will I get the university place? Will I get the guy? In all this cases, I didn't expect it to happen, I hoped for it to happen. Some things did happen, some didn't. All the things that happened effortlessly were stuff I hadn't thought about so much before it happened.
 

Sanshi, that analogy was IMPRESSIVE!!!! You should be extremely proud of yourself!! That was a true eye opener.

To answer your question, in the past I thought about when will it happen, will he really come back, what if starts dating another girl, do I have to do anything, etc. Then there are some moments when I'm like he is mine.

All in all, I can agree that when I didn't think much about something, it happened right away.

So when I do think of him, what do I say? "He's already mine so stop being stupid" and eventually with conviction these thoughts of him should stop coming in my mind?

jellyb wrote:

Your posts are always so full of wisdom, Sanshi. I admire your conviction and understanding of LOA, I really do--you're such a source of encouragement!

What do YOU do when you want to keep yourself aligned and prevent yourself from having false expectations?
 

Thank you.
To be honest, I stopped fighting against everything that doesn't feel good. I stopped going for things that feel hard for me right now. I let everything go that feels like work. I'm still learning myself, I can't manifest whatever I want yet and I have had many failures especially with specific people. Right now, I am just in the process of getting to know myself, listening to my feelings and watching what I have to feel in order to manifest something, be it good or bad. I think at one point, you get a feel for if you are heading in the right direction or if you are blocking your own energy. And when you reach that point, you get more confirmation of LoA, because you know that something will work out before it does work out, just because of the way you feel. And then you see that LoA does always work indeed and then, you won't have false expectations anymore, because there is no room for doubt left. That's my approach to this. I know it sounds like work and like it takes a lot of time and that's true, but I think it's worth it. So many people try to sell LoA as a quick fix and after being intensely into it for nearly 1 1/2 years, I can tell you that it really isn't. Feeling good should always be your first priority.