_Treasured_ wrote:

Thanks again. I am definitely going to focus on myself and my goals. Out of curiosity, is your girl not dating anyone anymore now? You are right that I'm hating on the girl close to him, and I do feel like the more I hate on her, the closer they get. So I am following your recommendation now to think that he is learning lessons with her so one day he will appreciate me and fall in love with me again.

There is another thing that I'm struggling with .. and perhaps you've gone through this and can offer some advice. Before he became involved with this new girl, I had an easy time visualizing being together with him as a happy couple. But now, when I visualize, I feel disgusted and bitter now that he's been with her intimately... In the future, when we're together, it would mean I've forgiven him, and I have difficulty imagining an outcome with 0% bitterness. 

 

Well for a brief moment she wasn't and we started talking again but she didn't want anything to do with me but I tried for a week still but I gave up as soon as she started going on dates with another guy. I really do love her but our relationship was super toxic and right now she really doesn't want anything serious at all. So I've actually let go of her completely. I chose to just step out. We have both been horrible to each other because of the toxicity.

When we broke up I knew she was going to be intimate with guys and it broke my heart, I had spent three years with her and she was so easily in a new relationship as soon as it had ended.  But I accepted it. Every person is human. We all have sex with people. Why am I judging her on something even I myself will do? Yeah I feel bitter, but am I really going to hold on to negativity that will potentially doom any chance I have with her? It's all about unconditional love.

I love her unconditionally. Always and forever.

But where she's at in life and where I am at...I love myself more. Its something I had stopped doing because of our unhealthy relationship. Thats why I chose to stop pursuing her. Maybe one day, but I am completely okay if it were to never happen as well.

I have a long life ahead of me and I want to make the most of it. I can't spend my life wasting away over one person. It's already done enough damage as is.

I will still offer my advice to you. I understand what you're going through. This is just my decision to move on, but loa has already helped me manifest so many amazing things and people. So keep at it