Creeeeestal wrote:

I know that my posts don't get responded to much, but I'm back in the place where I could use some encouragement.

I thought I was still feeling too attached to my ex again. Just how I've been feeling lately. So I decided to back off, and try a couple different methods on men that I don't know and have no attachment to.

I tried the "what if" method on a random match on tinder....which ironically looks like my ex if he spent a significant amount of time in the gym. Didn't really plan that out.

I thought "what if he messaged me out of the blue? What if he was fascinated by everything I had to say? What if he thought I was the most interesting woman he's ever laid eyes on?"


I manifested a message from him, a week later, which I thought "cool, it worked."
But the conversation was abrupt. He said he wanted to try to win me over, I acted just relaxed and aloof, we set up a date and time for coffee this week.

However, since setting up the coffee meeting, he went completely silent. He actually ghosted me after setting up a date and time. Now I'm sitting here trying to figure out what's wrong with me. I worked so hard on myself and believing that I was worth these positive dating experiences, but it seems no matter what I do stuff like this happens, and I feel myself starting to think I'm not worth it, and miss my ex again.

I don't even know this guy so it's not worth trying to manifest another text from him, it's pointless. He already came and went before we even met. It's frustrating because I'm doing everything, know the state of mind I need to be in, have been super relaxed and happy lately, and somewhere something still fails. I just want to be successful at something.

​You have to change your thought process. Just because he went silent after setting up the coffee meeting does not mean that he has gone. As per your words, the date has not yet arrived. So why are you thinking that he went away. Try to look at the scenario in a positive way. It might be that he is little busy with his works. It might be that he is not messaging you in fear that he might lose his interest in you before the meeting itself and therefore, he wants to keep that excitement of meeting you face to face. There are several other possibilities of the same scenario. It depends on the meaning that you give to it that rebounds to you. You are not being able to manifest anything because though you are trying your best, but you are not yet seeing things in a positive manner. You are looking for proof of manifestation and thus getting frustrated. Do not look out for proof because Universe is right now busy in putting up things in line for you to receive. So IT does not have the time to keep on sending proofs. Many of those things is happening without your knowledge. You should be concerned only with the end result and not how you are reaching there. So keep patience and your desires will manifest certainly

So slight update with this. 

I got myself in better spirits and just started telling myself more and more that I am worthy of these experiences. Went back to the affirmations I said before, but also added "it's just coffee, I'll be happy with or without it."

He ended up not disappearing, but I still felt kind of odd about him and the lack of conversation, but it turns out, when we did meet for coffee, he said he was just nervous to screw things up. We ended up having an amazing time, coffee turned into a drink, which turned into dinner. (I know, kind of backwards.) We also kissed. a lot. I can't even explain how those kisses felt, but it's a good feeling. Soft yet passionate at the same time...the kind that make your knees buckle. TMI?

We have a lot in common actually and the conversation flowed seamlessly. We talked about funny childhood stories, career goals, spreadsheets.....nerdy things that we thought we were weird for taking an interest in. We made plans to see one another tonight. But, I cancelled. 

I cancelled dinner tonight, because this afternoon I received a text message from a strange number, the person on the other end saying they're his fiancee. Supposedly he had been playing her all this time, and she saw our text messages and this was the last straw. She was nice to me but of course she's hurt by what he's done. My heart kind of sank. I wasn't upset or emotional, just disappointed. I have a good grasp on my emotions so I approached the situation calmly. There are 3 sides to every story. His, hers, and the truth. 

He had apologized, seemed to feel bad about what happened because when he met me, he really liked me. He did tell me that they're not a "thing" anymore and haven't been for awhile, and asked if I would give him a second chance. All I said was that I needed time to process. 

Do I have feelings for this guy, I wouldn't say so. I'd say it was a date that had gone well and I would've been open to getting to know him, .....had he actually been single. But this has taught me something in hindsight. I think back to my original post...I used the what if method to manifest a message from him, and manifest him being interested in me and fascinated by me and what I had to say. That all happened. I actually used the law of attraction consciously to manifest something in an area of my life where there has often been a lot of resistance. Right now I am simply thanking myself, because I know I can do it. The way I felt as we talked on this date was pretty comparable ( I know it's not good to compare people, but I don't get these types of feelings inside often) to how I felt with my ex in our prime, and this was on one date. It was just the simple fact that we got along so well, clicked, joked, finished each other's sentences, etc. It felt natural, it felt like we fit somehow, and I appreciate the feeling. The physical resemblance is almost like how I visualize my ex in the future.....I always visualize the two of us being in better shape together. I feel like this has shown me that I'm in the same state as my manifestation with him, but not the same city. But I'm closer than I've ever been. 

The situation is what it is, and overall I've learned the most about my ability to manifest. It was a good idea to practice on someone I had no attachment to, and I think I'd like to spend a bit more time playing around with it. I've come to realize that my dating life has been something in which I have created a lot of resistance due to my very strong limiting beliefs I've allowed to form from past experiences, so I think this just takes a bit of training.