What limitations do you speak of?

I think you need to be discerning - and I don't think that is contradictory information.  It's all about deciding who is worthy of your time.  I've seen at least two people on here pining after people who treat them like rubbish and even if I were in love with someone like that (which I cannot imagine) I would not deem them worthy of my time unless they started to show respect, and that starts with respecting yourself. Too many see themselves as losers when it is the ex partner, or love interest, or whatever, who is just awful.  So I would not waste my time pussywhipping someone like that.  I think that is the general idea anyway.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

I think you need to be discerning - and I don't think that is contradictory information.  It's all about deciding who is worthy of your time.  I've seen at least two people on here pining after people who treat them like rubbish and even if I were in love with someone like that (which I cannot imagine) I would not deem them worthy of my time unless they started to show respect, and that starts with respecting yourself. Too many see themselves as losers when it is the ex partner, or love interest, or whatever, who is just awful.  So I would not waste my time pussywhipping someone like that.  I think that is the general idea anyway.

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I get all of that pinkflamingo and I totally respect it and see merit in it. I have personally come a long way in terms of personal reevaluation of what I should and should not tolerate..my journey hasn't even been to attract a particular one however I do think there's a bit of a contradiction in terms of you attract what you're in alignment with etc. anyway just my opinion

Yep I totally get all of it and that should be expected since all of us here are on different wavelengths, heck I don't even think the same desires brought all of us here based on other threads I have read. For the sake of clarity I will provide an example. Sometimes you see here that LOA has the power to heal a relationship ( be it a partner, family member, friend etc). That when someone mistreats others, it may sometimes come from a place of lack of love for themselves so it is important to meet them with love anyway. For this, you truly need to love yourself, you need to be a whole so that you don't end up losing yourself trying to love this person. However...the fact still remains that it IS possible. In Lanie's book and don't get me wrong it was a great read, I felt like it didn't exactly speak to that. I say this from a personal point of view because once upon a time, I was in an extremely dark place and I would have considered myself to be unlovable. I did everything to push that particular ex away (ironically that was when I needed him most) and to this day I remain thankful that he didn't turn his back on me and he treated me with love regardless. Though we ended amicably with no hard feelings (over distance years later), if he had a hold of this book, i would have been the textbook definition of the person you RUN from..but because of his love,patience and general attitude of I know this isnt 'YOU' ...push me away I will be here regardless. I was able to dig myself out of it...and like I said to this day I remain thankful. He showed me unconditional love.I guess it really comes down to holding onto what you believe is true like Colonel Roosevelt said. In an infinite universe with infinite solutions, there will always be gray areas. 

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