Blue wrote:

Love yourself.

There are so many tools that so many of us provide for you all on this forum, I really don't understand why you guys can't just listen to us and utilise them.

To be fair, a lot of us were in that type of position when we first came to this forum(which actually is a good reason for them to listen, we have experience).    It's hard to listen at first though, most people want quick fixes.  Sadly.  That's not what loa is about

You need to think more of yourself than this woman and not put her on a pedestal. Are you sure you're not grovelling? What do you mean by loving her unconditionally? That doesn't mean enabling bad behaviour and for the other person to treat you like a doormat.I'm not saying that is what you are doing because we only get a snapshot from comments. I don't know if this is an ex or someone you want to be with. If an ex I don't know why you split so it's hard to give advice without the whole picture.

But law of attraction doesn't mean you have to be a doormat.

You say you love and support her. With what? Focus on loving and supporting you.

Last edited by PrettyFlamingo (2/04/2017 3:48 am)

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

You need to think more of yourself than this woman and not put her on a pedestal. Are you sure you're not grovelling? What do you mean by loving her unconditionally? That doesn't mean enabling bad behaviour and for the other person to treat you like a doormat.I'm not saying that is what you are doing because we only get a snapshot from comments. I don't know if this is an ex or someone you want to be with. If an ex I don't know why you split so it's hard to give advice without the whole picture.

But law of attraction doesn't mean you have to be a doormat.

You say you love and support her. With what? Focus on loving and supporting you.

I was very good at doing self love while during no contact with her but as soon as we were talking again and seeing each other it was so hard to focus on me.

She is an ex. She Broke up with me two months ago and left me for someone else. Our previous relationship was very toxic and in many ways I was grovelling. She just always ends up on a pedestal. She has a very stubborn pride and believes she does nothing wrong. She holds me accountable for everything but demands I let go of her things. Shes always looked for other people to be with. Even now she says she loves me but doesnt want to be with me but still demands that we hangout and act how we did while dating.

She says I am her comfort and for a breif time recently we were together again but she said she wanted time for herself but shes talking with other people.

She looks everywhere exept at me.

I agree with DAN, we all were almost this stage when we joined, like expecting a magic genie to get our exes back. So many of us came with a hope of a miracle that at times it disappoints us. We slowly realize LOA is about working on ourselves so that we reach a vibrational  match which will attract the best mate for us, including our ex. Turtle..this can be a little difficult, but we all go through negetive feelings sometime. What u call QUIT is superb, provided its QUITTING THE DESPERATION. Leave it for the time being. Go ahead and live your life. Take a break. Keep the desire but dont wait for it anymore. Once u can do that, trust me best things and people will come your way. 

Lj wrote:

It's hard to go from no contact to contact.
Happy I could help you out. And EFT is an awesome tool for anybody with any type of issues they are struggeling with.
Don't lose hope. You can absolutely have your love  back. Anything is possible. But faith is essential.
Always have thoughts of love with your POI and focus of the things you want. Not what you don't want.
Ex. "I have a great relationship with my girlfriend", not "I can't be without my girlfriend".
Veronicas videos on getting an ex back, are also really good. They have alot of positive vibes.

How about thoughts of "my girlfriend loves and respects me" and similar? Because, with the greatest of respect, she sounds like a nightmare. Ever thought it's not you that's the problem but her?