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Update ***need a little advice
So we've been talking now 3 weeks. Things have been good . First day was awesome. We talked 6 straight hours . He's been busy so we don't talk much and also he is with someone new .
I am not pushy and I talk when he feels like it . He has always said he wished things were different and he still thinks of me often.
Today he said the same , but he continued to let me know how I messed up . I'm fine being friends for now . He said he will continue to think about me but I messed up and just seemed to want to argue .
In all this I remained calm, as he said , I'm done you messed up .
This went on for about 2 hours , back and forth about him saying how we could have had this , that and the other and how I messed it up .
Than he gave me the sexiest picture of himself I've every seen and ended the conversation...
I'm like wtf !!??
What's my next move or not
Surprisingly, I not hurt and I still feel wonderful .
- Suzy
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Re: Update ***need a little advice
You crossed my mind earlier today. I was going to ask you how things were going...then I saw your post now.
I don't think you should have a next move other than continue doing what were doing before. Clearly, he still has feelings for you.
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It sounds like he is really into you, despite the bit of venting. I say be cool and sweet and let him keep coming back to you. I agree with Suzy - you don't need a next move. I'm glad you feel wonderful!
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Suzy wrote:
You crossed my mind earlier today. I was going to ask you how things were going...then I saw your post now.
I don't think you should have a next move other than continue doing what were doing before. Clearly, he still has feelings for you.
Thank you Suzy . I don't know . This is what I'm hoping . The fact that he wasn't saying the normal , leave me the hell alone was definitely a good sign , wanting to argue about the past blew my mind . I'm not forcing it I will definitely left things flow naturally at this point .
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It sounds like he is really into you, despite the bit of venting. I say be cool and sweet and let him keep coming back to you. I agree with Suzy - you don't need a next move. I'm glad you feel wonderful!
Yes Topaz , I do . I have come a long way . The fact that he wanted to argue and I told him that I won't argue about the past , he calmed down .
I know he still has feelings , otherwise he wouldn't be thinking of me the way he is .
Why dream of having a headache, if you don't want one ? Or think of breaking your leg if that's not what you want ? I'm going to fall back a little , and let him continue to think of me . The universe has this all under control.
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Re: Update ***need a little advice
You see Tumom, the only thing I can suggest is stop thinking that you were in fault. Yes, I am saying this because that is how law of attraction works. You might have forgiven yourself for anything else but not for the messed up part. And might be that is the reason it came up while you were having a lovely time with your boyfriend. You did an excellent job by not taking the cue from the circumstances and then react. You just felt your natural being. So if you continue feeling the same, trust me that messed up part will eventually go away from your life. And congrats that your love still loves you and wants you in his life. Just stay positive and keep on attracting happiness.
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You see Tumom, the only thing I can suggest is stop thinking that you were in fault. Yes, I am saying this because that is how law of attraction works. You might have forgiven yourself for anything else but not for the messed up part. And might be that is the reason it came up while you were having a lovely time with your boyfriend. You did an excellent job by not taking the cue from the circumstances and then react. You just felt your natural being. So if you continue feeling the same, trust me that messed up part will eventually go away from your life. And congrats that your love still loves you and wants you in his life. Just stay positive and keep on attracting happiness.
Thank you lovekinja, I'm will keep up what I'm doing . Maybe give some space would help as well . I know the feeling is still there so let's see what happen.
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He is just really has me confused . He says he wants to be friends, now he doesn't want to be friends . He sends pictures of himself, but says it's only to shut me up . He says he visualizes about us sexually, but that doesn't matter because I'm not the only one he does that to..
Tell me about a rough day ? I've had it . But I'm just going to keep on doing what I've been doing . I'm unphased by today's events because I've heard this before and I believe it's only words .
Words can't hurt me , I will keep going strong . This blow didn't knock me out , I'm still here and I'm stronger than ever . Sending good vibes to everyone including myself
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I'm really impressed by you, Tumon.
Most people would have fallen straight into the trap he's laying out, but you just keep it cool 🖒
To me it sound like he's trying you out. Feeling where the power is at the moment. If he can get you wired up and getting upset, then he feel he's got the power. And he definately want that.
But right all the power is in your hands, cos you're keeping it cool.
He still wants you, no doubt about that. But he's probably a bit upset that you aren't just running full steam ahead to him.
Just my thought when I read your post.
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I'm really impressed by you, Tumon.
Most people would have fallen straight into the trap he's laying out, but you just keep it cool 🖒
To me it sound like he's trying you out. Feeling where the power is at the moment. If he can get you wired up and getting upset, then he feel he's got the power. And he definately want that.
But right all the power is in your hands, cos you're keeping it cool.
He still wants you, no doubt about that. But he's probably a bit upset that you aren't just running full steam ahead to him.
Just my thought when I read your post.
Yes I believe the feelings are definitely there , he got upset I wouldn't send nude pictures when clearly he has a girlfriend. I have feelings, he knows that , but I don't want things to happen this way .
Why asked why , his excuse is I don't care about you I just think about you ...
Makes sense to me , I mean I always think about things that mean nothing to me 🤔🤔
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