MiracleMaker wrote:

Hey Meg, I believe it is a good thing. From what I have understood, that feeling of detachment and letting go is when we truly put ourselves in line to receiving our desires. Sometimes I think the feeling can be mixed up with feeling it is impossible so we accept an alternative to make us happy, which is fine too because that is the goal right? to be happy... who knows maybe when A comes around, you may not even want that relationship anymore! True detachment opens the door for your manifestation because at this point you have already convinced yourself A is yours and completely trusting the universe to handle the rest. The universe as already received your order and it WILL deliver. PS doesn't it feel good though? I have been manifesting guys who have had interest in me from ages ago..a friend even told me what's going on?? it must be something in the air haha

It made me really happy reading this, yeah it does feel great, I feel free! And that is true, maybe I wont want it maybe i will who knows. All i know is I like this feeling so I am gonna stay here, I also saw something the other day as well where it said we can just choose to believe, in stead of getting in a muddle about everything just say nope, no doubt, i choose to believe. And I liked that very much! Thank you for your reply xxx

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

You're not losing your desire, you're just getting more in tune with what your desires really are. I think it's common to feel more detached after accepting and processing grief and choosing to build happiness. Also, there's a difference between being detached from a specific person and being detached from the fears, insecurities, and resistance.

How do i know the difference? I mean, I care for him and love him still, I want him to be happy, but also not bothered what happens anymore, does that mean I am detached from the fears and its only love? Whenever I do think of doubting thoughts or they start to creep up I just start to say in my head:

"I am beautiful, I am enough, I am worthy, I am loved" - and it makes me feel so much better and that no matter what happens I will be okay.

I really do hope this is the right path! I am enjoying it anyway (despite the grief I feel) 

xxx

Last edited by Meg2222 (1/27/2017 1:57 pm)

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

Meg2222 wrote:

How do i know the difference? I mean, I care for him and love him still, I want him to be happy, but also not bothered what happens anymore, does that mean I am detached from the fears and its only love?

Sounds like you're getting there.

Being detached from someone doesn't mean you don't care about them or you don't have feelings for them. But you know you can be happy no matter what happens between you and them. Detachment might feel like calm, trust, or confidence...but this calm, trust, and confidence is in you, in your ability to heal and be happy no matter the outcome, in the bigger picture. The ideas you once had of the people you were attached to no longer control your happiness so the fears and the neediness you had over them are now like a mirage.

You can tell the difference by how you feel. Someday, you may think of him and feel no need or fear or longing, it's just calm or appreciation or freedom or trust, like it's no big deal. You're detached from him. But maybe you're in a new relationship and old patterns and old fears are there and it's messing up your happiness - you're attached to the old (and new) fears and resistance, it's just showing up in a different way.

This is not to say that being detached is the only key to good relationships, it's only natural to feel somewhat attached to someone when we love them in a deep, romantic way. The point is that practicing detachment helps us heal and become happier by releasing the grip that fear and sadness has on us.


 

Thank you Colonel This has really helped! I just feel love and whatever happens I know its for the best and iwill be ok! xxx

Avaelle wrote:

I think so. I'm starting "not to care" about some of my desires. I'd say that not being so wrapped up and caught up on these things,  is a good thing.

Yeah I agree with you, I know I will be ok no matter what happens, still send him love and happiness and focus on myself. It is how it should be :D xx