Hisoneandonly wrote:

Cherished wrote:

You can hang out with friends and still not love yourself. Do you spend time doing any affirmations? Do you love your body? Do you think you are beautiful? Funny? Intelligent? Are you comfortable being exactly as you are? Do you put others before you, or are you the most important person in your life?

What do you adore about yourself?
What are your strengths?
What do you truly admire about you?

 
I sometimes do affirmations when I feel like it..
I don't know do I really love my body, maybe sometimes?
I thinks that I'm funny but not intelligent.
I'm not comfortable with my inner self.
I care about others more.
I don't know what do I adore myself, maybe a good stamina? Or a outgoing personality?
I don't know what my strengths are.
I don't know what to admire about myself..

 
We have some work to do here!! I'll be back! 🌈😘💖

What happened here?! I was gone for one hour and you indulged in a full-on negative rampage! This isn't going to help..  Everyone is working to help raise your vibration except for you! You're going to need to commit to doing your best. I asked you to say some positive things about yourself! You see, words and thoughts are POWERFUL. They create your future. If you want a better future you simply MUST focus exclusively on GOOD THINGS. Let's try again! It doesn't matter if you don't believe the words entirely yet. Reach for words that are just a LITTLE better.. We need to get you moving UP to happiness, not just perpetuating misery every single day! You must be exhausted!

Hisoneandonly wrote:

So what should I write now..? Things what I want?.. I felt neutral just now. I hope it's good.

Hisoneandonly, I have been reading your thread, and I am here to tell you that you are certainly intelligent, so surely you can put that down on the list no?
Cherished has made a wonderful thread dedicated to self appreciation, so why not take a look at that, too? Here it is: http://veronicaloa.boardhost.com/viewtopic.php?id=389


 

Debbie wrote:

Deliciously_happy wrote:

 oh and stay away from the other forums - I ised to go to be inspired by success stories but then I realized a lot of the stories are sob stories and people judging each other it just started making me feel low so I stopped - I only come here and only focus on titles that resonate - if I see a post that feels negative I don't read it, unless I have advice in which case I read a few lines to get a Crux of the issue and say what I have to say -
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I think that this is a really important point for you, Hisoneandonly. A lot of people on the forums are understandably distressed because they want their ex back, and then they vent about it in their posts. I also have done this in the past, but now I believe that it is so counter-productive. Every time we focus on how it went wrong with our ex, how miserable we feel, etc etc, we are effectively shooting ourselves in the foot.
Looking back, the only time I have attracted my ex back is when I have got myself into a place where I feel happier. The more I was venting about it on the forums saying "oh my guy he really hurt me and I feel so upset, and he did this and he did that" blah blah blah, well he just stayed away and I stayed blocked on social media. But the moment when I have relaxed even a little bit and started to do things that I found pleasing to me, THAT was the moment when I'd find myself unblocked, and/or being contacted by him. You have to give yourself a break from all this fretting and focusing on the worst scenarios so that you can breathe air.
I remember one time in particular when I posted about how mean my guy had been, and the other shocked forum members basically confirmed what a jerk he was being and how I would be better off without him etc. Well that really made me feel worse and it din't attract him back!  But then Veronica replied and said "you absolutely can get him to contact you first." I remember her words sounded so sure. That sureness gave me a sense of peace all of a sudden and really from there onwards I just got on with the process of visualizing and let the Universe do the rest of the work. And within a very short time my guy was back in contact.
 

 Thankyou debbie for your encouragement! So did you attract him back into a relationship? And does the relationship gets better and more perfect than before?

I just stop thinking about him sometimes, I got a lil bit relaxed. I went to zumba again last night and felt so distracted and good. I just got depressed when I think of how long have he not been contacting me and he might feel great without me because I won't argue with him anymore..I felt slightly better at the noon time then I would visualise how he text me and apologise but all the bad past experience and what he said like not loving me anymore and would never back to me... just ruined everything...

He can't be back because you aren't making a sustained effort to raise your vibration.. And you have the power to do that. You are just choosing to not practice!

Last edited by Cherished (10/20/2015 3:28 am)