Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

More than 5 years ago, I practiced LoA to help me attract a specific person. Worked on that on again/ off again for 3 years with several failures and a few successes. I experimented with different teachings too. Now, speaking from my own experience....

Letting go is the best thing you can do right now, especially since you're hurt. Letting go gives you space and time to heal yourself, to make peace with the anxiety, to create better beliefs about yourself, to feel attractive and confident again. Letting go is not a technique to get him back. It's about getting yourself back. It makes everything easier.

5 years ago, I wish I listened to my gut and did more of this instead of religiously doing RS. My insecure ego loved RS, but deep down I did it not from genuine love or trust, but because I was afraid and out of that I wanted control. But as long as those insecurities were the dominant force in me, they would always be reflected back to me in my world. Letting go was about changing myself, freeing myself from that prison.





 

That's exactly I'm talking about ... sometimes that way would be better but for me it's tbh not possible not thinking about him ... the last few days I decided to do nothing at all but it drives me insane and doesn't feel right in a way idk ...
we always had a very strong connection we've never been long without contact ... it's hard just to watch that ... feels like giving up ..

Avaelle wrote:

How about testing things to see what will work for you?

Well tbh my journey started last summer since that time I did Veronica's challenge and attracted him back in a short amount of time. Then we did a long roller coaster ride but we didn't make it to a relationship or back to that strong bound we had well almost but not that much. As he wanted to stay single I always had a lot of anxiety and doubts guess that was the main problem ...
now that he told me about this other girl ... (hate to talk about that) and I broke the contact I feel I have to continue the work but I'm just asking myself if it didn't work out for so long why should it this time...?

But right now I know I'll feel better doing the techniques that's why I'll continue doing that but going on with my life throughout the day

I can sort of relate to this but in a different context, that of the workplace. If I focus on what is now, on 31st of this month I will have no job and will be unable to survive. That's not a statement of fact, just one of many possible outcomes.

Though it isn't looking good. No success with interviews and agencies don't want me either because I've worked at too high a level than what they want. They say potential employers think I won't stay in lower level jobs so they don't put me forward and say there is no temporary work either.

I just need money coming in.

In similar scenarios in the past something has always come up at the last minute and I'm trying to hold on to that when I'm waking up every night in a blind panic about the mortgage.

Being happy is hard in this case. But should I "let go" of the need to find a job?

Trust me it's much worse than wanting your ex back. I'd give anything to be in my old job that I didn't like and gave up for the one I'm about to lose.

I can live without any ex. I can't live without an income.

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PrettyFlamingo wrote:

I can sort of relate to this but in a different context, that of the workplace. If I focus on what is now, on 31st of this month I will have no job and will be unable to survive. That's not a statement of fact, just one of many possible outcomes.

Though it isn't looking good. No success with interviews and agencies don't want me either because I've worked at too high a level than what they want. They say potential employers think I won't stay in lower level jobs so they don't put me forward and say there is no temporary work either.

I just need money coming in.

In similar scenarios in the past something has always come up at the last minute and I'm trying to hold on to that when I'm waking up every night in a blind panic about the mortgage.

Being happy is hard in this case. But should I "let go" of the need to find a job?

Trust me it's much worse than wanting your ex back. I'd give anything to be in my old job that I didn't like and gave up for the one I'm about to lose.

I can live without any ex. I can't live without an income.

That's you. There are people that feel like their lives are over once their ex is gone. They don't want to go on at all, much less to a job. It's probably best not to compare the 2 because you could be making your desire seem more out of reach, harder to obtain.