meenboy wrote:

Oh wow... This is really awesome.... Please guide me in my daily routine if you can. I wish to have some such things for me with my girl, like calling me, missing me, trying to meet me, etc. I want her to say this to me. Will it be possible? I honestly want to be honest in what I expect.

Yes, it's possible.

It really wasn't about having a daily routine or doing xyz and the person pops up.  It was about doing techniques  to get me to where I needed to be mentally.   

I used delusion to act as if he was already there and stop missing him and counting days.
I used the vision board to get rid of the negative talk about him.
I did RS to spend time with him and feel good.
I wrote in my gratitude journal to realize all of the things I should be grateful for in my life.
I listed out the traits that made me a great partner so that I wouldn't feel that other people were competition.
I went out with friends, treated myself on dates, took up my hobbies and learned to appreciate life and realize that so many other things could make me happy other than him.

 

I have my guy's initials on the board, but not a photo. For some reason (for me personally), I think a photo is a tab bit creepy.. but that's just me! I have photos of things I want (dog, car, etc), just not the person!

You put on there whatever you want. If a photo of the person is helpful (which it can be!) do it! But as long as the photo brings about good, happy emotions and not feelings of missing her, etc. You do whatever feels good and brings about good feelings.

meenboy wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

meenboy wrote:

Oh wow... This is really awesome.... Please guide me in my daily routine if you can. I wish to have some such things for me with my girl, like calling me, missing me, trying to meet me, etc. I want her to say this to me. Will it be possible? I honestly want to be honest in what I expect.

Yes, it's possible.

It really wasn't about having a daily routine or doing xyz and the person pops up.  It was about doing techniques  to get me to where I needed to be mentally.   

I used delusion to act as if he was already there and stop missing him and counting days.
I used the vision board to get rid of the negative talk about him.
I did RS to spend time with him and feel good.
I wrote in my gratitude journal to realize all of the things I should be grateful for in my life.
I listed out the traits that made me a great partner so that I wouldn't feel that other people were competition.
I went out with friends, treated myself on dates, took up my hobbies and learned to appreciate life and realize that so many other things could make me happy other than him.

 

OMG!!! You did all these things!!?? Now that's really some serious work. I hope I can be somewhere near you in my efforts at least. One thing. Can you let me know if using the photo of the person can help in any way? I do have her picture in my mailbox. Any comments on this?

I never viewed it as work.

Avaelle wrote:

meenboy wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

Yes, it's possible.

It really wasn't about having a daily routine or doing xyz and the person pops up.  It was about doing techniques to get me to where I needed to be mentally.   

I used delusion to act as if he was already there and stop missing him and counting days.
I used the vision board to get rid of the negative talk about him.
I did RS to spend time with him and feel good.
I wrote in my gratitude journal to realize all of the things I should be grateful for in my life.
I listed out the traits that made me a great partner so that I wouldn't feel that other people were competition.
I went out with friends, treated myself on dates, took up my hobbies and learned to appreciate life and realize that so many other things could make me happy other than him.

 

OMG!!! You did all these things!!?? Now that's really some serious work. I hope I can be somewhere near you in my efforts at least. One thing. Can you let me know if using the photo of the person can help in any way? I do have her picture in my mailbox. Any comments on this?

I never viewed it as work.

Of course, I didn't mean it in the literal term. But you have mentioned 6 points and to some of them I am new. Like, what about counting days and traits that you talked of. Other things are fine and I got them