Dan2015 wrote:

I think loa is a good way to get a lot of the things you want in life.    But. I think people jump into this too quick and aren't at the emotional level to fully succeed

For example.  Say if your ex just brokeup with you.    Instead of trying to use loa to get them back right away.  I honestly think you should try to take your mind fully off them(in terms of wanting them back). 

It's a process.   I think you need to let yourself feel at first, even the negative emotions.    If you're sad, and have to cry.  Do it.    Also be angry.    I would even suggest buying a punching bag or going to the gym and punch the punching bag st fines,   Release all those type of emotions and resistance


Then. I think you should start focusing on yourself.   Loving yourself.  Finding new hobbies.  Making more money.   Doing things you enjoy. Etc etc.   just loving yourself and life.       Once you do this more.   You start not feeling sad when you think of them

Once you "got yourself back" and improved yourself.   Then I think you should start thinking about the person you want,   Plus it's easier "wanting" someone as opposed of feeling like you need them



I think a lot of people(myself included). Jumped into this thinking there would be results right away, then you just start making yourself really unhappy and also forcing yourself to visualize/RS,etc. then they just stay stuck in a constant unhappy/unsure state

As contradictory as it sounds, you honestly have to get to the place where you don't care if you get the person back.  To get them back 

If I could go back, I would have not focused on my ex for the first 6-12 months. And just focused on myself,my happiness,my career, etc

I think people get the idea that if they take this attitude then they will get the opposite of what they want. So, if they allow themselves to feel and express anger and hurt this is interpreted as not feeling good so they force themselves to be happy so they don't attract more rubbish.

Also people can think that if they are happy with life in general minus the ex, the universe will say look, you don't need him/her and they will continue to not have them back, as they think.

I'm not surprised as there is a lot of confusing advice around and it's easy to have muddled thinking. I include myself in this.

I'm not interested in getting an ex back. My immediate concern is work related. It's the bottom layer of the Maslow Triangle for me. Without security regarding my house nothing else matters to me. Only when that is satisfied can I think about other things. Without a job I can't pay the mortgage. It's not rocket science and a worry.

But I'm going to give it a go. Focus on other stuff that is good.