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I think loa is a good way to get a lot of the things you want in life. But. I think people jump into this too quick and aren't at the emotional level to fully succeed
For example. Say if your ex just brokeup with you. Instead of trying to use loa to get them back right away. I honestly think you should try to take your mind fully off them(in terms of wanting them back).
It's a process. I think you need to let yourself feel at first, even the negative emotions. If you're sad, and have to cry. Do it. Also be angry. I would even suggest buying a punching bag or going to the gym and punch the punching bag st fines, Release all those type of emotions and resistance
Then. I think you should start focusing on yourself. Loving yourself. Finding new hobbies. Making more money. Doing things you enjoy. Etc etc. just loving yourself and life. Once you do this more. You start not feeling sad when you think of them
Once you "got yourself back" and improved yourself. Then I think you should start thinking about the person you want, Plus it's easier "wanting" someone as opposed of feeling like you need them
I think a lot of people(myself included). Jumped into this thinking there would be results right away, then you just start making yourself really unhappy and also forcing yourself to visualize/RS,etc. then they just stay stuck in a constant unhappy/unsure state
As contradictory as it sounds, you honestly have to get to the place where you don't care if you get the person back. To get them back
If I could go back, I would have not focused on my ex for the first 6-12 months. And just focused on myself,my happiness,my career, etc
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I tell people nearly the same things because this way of looking at it helped me a lot...but people seldom listen. Oh well lol.
By the way, the specific woman I wanted years ago (not 100% into her anymore though)....that I spent so much time living in my imagination for...ran into me at a time when I was doing all of this stuff a few months ago.
But for some reason, people look at LoA teachings and demonize their own emotions. They push down anger and sadness and fear and distract themselves with happy thoughts...but I've learned the hard way that it makes you numb, not happy. The resistance just lives on in a deeper part of your mind until you deal with it and make peace with it.
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Colonel Roosevelt wrote:
I tell people nearly the same things because this way of looking at it helped me a lot...but people seldom listen. Oh well lol.
By the way, the specific woman I wanted years ago (not 100% into her anymore though)....that I spent so much time living in my imagination for...ran into me at a time when I was doing all of this stuff a few months ago.
But for some reason, people look at LoA teachings and demonize their own emotions. They push down anger and sadness and fear and distract themselves with happy thoughts...but I've learned the hard way that it makes you numb, not happy. The resistance just lives on in a deeper part of your mind until you deal with it and make peace with it.
Yup, most Won't listen. But I guess it's human nature
I agree with so much about pretending to be happy, I use to do that so much, it set me back more than it helped. It's hard/impossible and not Even healthy to force ourselves to hide emotions
If we're sad about something, we need to let it out. Plus I notice when you do that, it's easier to bounce back
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Such sensible advice.
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Good advice LOL
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I wish more people would pay attention to this, but people want quick fixes. Even if they don't fully love themselves yet
Once you truly love yourself, you realize you don't need Anyone and you can also get whoever you want, so you don't feel obsessed with getting the ex back
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They can't hear you. They are vibrationally too far apart. It's really like speaking a different language.
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I love what you said here: " it's easier "wanting" someone as opposed of feeling like you need them "
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I would also add to look at your life and see what you're not giving yourself that you want this other person to give to you.
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Sanshi wrote:
They can't hear you. They are vibrationally too far apart. It's really like speaking a different language.
You're so right. Also I love what you said in the original post Dan. I had that very same mind set when I first started.