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1 - Laura1234
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The same things
I attracted one night with him again.... we werent in contact one month and I wrote him happy new year etc and he wrote me too and he said me the same things again. He dont want a relationship he want just sex, he want be a single etc etc... why I dont know attract a relationship. Why I dont have a selfworth when I love someone... Im really want be with him but I dont know what I have do. I imagine a relationship and things which I want hear from him but I dont know attract this. I WANT.be JUST WITH HIM, sex just with him. I think that yesterday I show him and his friends that I havent a selfworth... his one friend wrote me that Im was a normall but his another friend have another opinion because when I wrote him a happy new year so he wasnt in the bar where I was and I wrote him tvár I want tell with him like a friends and he want too. But when he arrive so he dont want tell with me because he probably think that I will tell him about a relationship. But I still sitting with him and his friends and later when we went a home so I said him that I want just sex too.. because I really wanted but I want a relationship too..months before when he call me and he was horny so I stopped him and we arent a sex but yesterday.I dont want stopped him.
... I want forget on these bad things from last year and from this first day this year and delete all bad feelings but I dont know it. And I dont know how long I still will attract one night with him. For me is easier believe that I can attract one night with him than a relationship. And when miss me a sex so I want be with him bwcause I dont know be with somebody else and this is stupid situation when I have so large desire have a sex with him, only with him because I dont know have a sex without love.. and right now I have a stupid feelings and I dont want see his friends and him when they think about me a stupid things.. but I see that repeat me the same things from past a relationships.. when I run for a man.
- Laura1234
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Re: The same things
When for me its so hard take him off that pedestal. Im raising my vibrations and care about me but he is still on pedestal.. I want think only just me and believe but I still have to stalking his fb and when I see him so I dont know have a good feelings that we already have a relationship, when we dont talk and he ingor me when I see him. on the facebook he dont post a lot things but he blocked me and so I stalking from anothe account even more. When we were friends on the fb so its was easier because I dont have to stalking.. yes he is on pedestal but I dont know how take hin off.. I can care about me but I still will think about him and I will curious what he is doing
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Thread Starter- Laura1234
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Re: The same things
Byť how I can forget about yesterday night that he and his friends probably think that I havent any self -esteem, self worth?I want began this yesr with clear mind and work on me, but now when I will see his and his friends so I will feel stupid.I dont know why matters me what other people think about me
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Thread Starter- Avaelle
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Re: The same things
Laura1234 wrote:
Byť how I can forget about yesterday night that he and his friends probably think that I havent any self -esteem, self worth?I want began this yesr with clear mind and work on me, but now when I will see his and his friends so I will feel stupid.I dont know why matters me what other people think about me
You're putting out that your situation with the guy is purely sexual. So, that is what you get back from the people involved. Don't worry so much over it though. All you have to do is change what you put out about the situation and you will get different results.
Visualize the relationship you want.
Visualize what happen, but picturing it going the way you wanted
Write out affirmations about the relationship you want and how you feel and tell yourself these things.
Find something to do with your time so that you aren't overthinking this so much.
The Universe is your playground.
- Laura1234
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Re: The same things
Again..... I was drunk again Im wrote him again, he told me similar things again.... this sutation is still repeat
. He dont want a relationship he is without feelings because he had a bad childhood and he dont want like his parents. He dont know what is love etc etc.. but he have a weakness on me and he dont know dont touch and kiss when he is with me...bla blah... every time when I attract his so its the same and I feel bad.. when I wrote him yesterdsy that I dont want ignore with him and that I already dont want pretend that he is not nothing for me so when he call me so I was think that he tell me the same but..... and one question.. can I manifest thst I dont will pregnant? Because after yesterday night I can be... and I dont want child never. And he too.... people Im lost ..how long I will manifest just this situation? When he tell me a sweet words which I imagine every day?: (
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Thread Starter- Laura1234
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Re: The same things
In march will a one year I try attract him back... but I still attract this one night whee he tell me these words ..now we will ignore again....
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Thread Starter- Laura1234
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Re: The same things
And he stilltell me that I didnt anything mistake.so maybesometimes people really arent our mirrors and they have their pains and beliefs from their life and so they afraid a relationships and strong feelings... for example this my ex...
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Thread Starter- Sanshi
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And he stilltell me that I didnt anything mistake.so maybesometimes people really arent our mirrors and they have their pains and beliefs from their life and so they afraid a relationships and strong feelings... for example this my ex...
You obviously believe in his story and by doing that make it your story about him. You focus on his behaviour. How can you expect it to change? Let's say you meet a new person that is grumpy. You "know" that grumpy people do exist or that people can be grumpy, so it can manifest in your experience. Now you have two options to handle the situation. Either you think something like "This person is really grumpy, I don't like them being grumpy, I bet this person is always grumpy, I hope this grumpy person will stay away from me". Well, what do you get? This grumpy person being even grumpier around you and being even more around you. Or you think something like "This person has just a bad day, I bet it's a nice person, I really like that person's eyes, I would love to see them smile, next time we see each other they will smile". Next time, you will see that person smile for sure. You can choose which path to take. If you take the first path, you will get the impression that it is just the way this person is. The more you focus on it, the more you manifest it, the harder it gets to think differently about that person. But it isn't the way the person is, even if you experienced that person in that way for 15 years. It's still the way you created that person and you can change it at any given point in time.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
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- Laura1234
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But what I have do? I always repeat that he want a relationship that he maybe just confused...I repeat this so long time and I always attract just this his behavior that he dont want a relationship and etc.. yes I know that sometimes I have a doubts but very often I really believe thst he be with me.. and when is situation as yesterday that we are together after a long time so I always wait that now he tell me all good things what I was imagine.now its time he tell me that he want a relationship.. but no.. he tell opposite again. This situation was repeat 4 times.. Im sad that I dont know change it when I know that only me can change it... Sanshi be honest what you do if you was me? I did superman game I stopped it I did again. I want forgot to him and focus on me, later I dont want forget to him and I want did rs and visualisation.. I know that I probably try hard and its mistake..but now I know that its good that I dont stop did Rs because maybe he told me that Im his weakness only cause I did Rs.. my friend tell me that she think that he loves me because she see what he do when we are in the same place.. but that he dont know what he want probably.when I dont kno Loa so I would think the same things but when I know how loa work so I know that he dont know what he want because my vibrations probably attract this his version... or what. I remember last year when he wanted still be with me, he was so in love .he told me yesterday that yes it was a began so he was enchanted..I want this his version come back so very much..
When this situation was happened first time so I think …"he just have some problems and he is confused because he never dont feel this love and he had bad experience and pains but he later will text me and he will want be with me when he realized that he really can be a happy and he can found a hapiness with me "...but nothing change and he repeat it what I wrote.. so sometimes I really want a give up and I think that he cant be with me and give me love when he never get love from his family and when he have so much pains and problems..
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Thread Starter- PrettyFlamingo
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Re: The same things
You seem to be making the mistake of thinking having sex with this bloke will change his mind and make him want a relationship. It won't, all it will get you is more of the same because you are enabling him to carry on the same way. You know what I would do? Tell him no if he asks again. Tell him what you have said here - you only want sex within a relationship with a healthy, functioning guy, and if that can be him in the future, then he can get back in touch with you. And mean it. Don't contact him, don't obsess over social media, get on with your own life and be the best version of you that you can be.
Also, stop worrying about him having problems, being confused, he's had bad experiences etc etc - that is for him to work on, not for you to fix. You can change yourself, your expectations, your views of yourself. You are giving out the vibe of someone so obsessed with a person that you will accept crumbs and that is not healthy. As someone else has observed, this gives the impression that you are happy to just have casual sex and it doesn't get you the love and respect you want or deserve. I'd also follow the advice Avaelle has said about focusing on the relationship you want with him. Then if you do see him, for heavens' sake say no to one night stands. All it will do is drag you down.
It's up to you what you do, but you need a break from thinking about him and obsessing over him. Time to think about you and work on YOU.
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