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Hey guys, i wanted to ask how would our desires occur to us? Why do we want what we want so suddenly? Like let's just say I wanted to be crazy rich or be in an amazing relationship, why would I want that? Someone on here I think, not sure who, but someone said if you want a desire another version of you out there exists or somewhere along those lines. This is hard to explain but I want something that's never ever occurred in my mind before, I suddenly wanted this specific thing, the idea was completely new I never thought of having this. So that's why I was wondering why would a new idea/desire that you've never come up with occur to you? I'm suddenly feeling bleehh, not trying to spread any negativity I don't feel upset or depressed or anything this is just my question, thanks!
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I've pondered why we desire as well. From my understanding desire is born because we lack something in our lives. It's born of an egoic consciousness that seeks to add more experiences to it.
Now I'm not saying its a bad thing to have desire, but you have to be careful not to focus too much on the desire, rather focus on having it fulfilled.
We also desire because we think it will fulfill a need in us. You desire food when you're hungry but not when you've eaten. To me that's where detachment fits in. The living as if part.
In my personal experience delving deeper into my being I discovered that I truly desire nothing. Sure I have preferences, but deep down I know everything in the external world is fleeting. Nothing will complete us because we already ate complete. Be happy and think awesomely because you have everything you will ever need in yourself.
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I just read yesterday that desire is a gift god made to us. I like that. I think it's something we give to ourselves (the higher part to the lower part) to be able to explore more of the world. Not following your desires is lazy, because you don't help the expansion of the universe.
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InLakEsch wrote:
I've pondered why we desire as well. From my understanding desire is born because we lack something in our lives. It's born of an egoic consciousness that seeks to add more experiences to it.
Now I'm not saying its a bad thing to have desire, but you have to be careful not to focus too much on the desire, rather focus on having it fulfilled.
We also desire because we think it will fulfill a need in us. You desire food when you're hungry but not when you've eaten. To me that's where detachment fits in. The living as if part.
In my personal experience delving deeper into my being I discovered that I truly desire nothing. Sure I have preferences, but deep down I know everything in the external world is fleeting. Nothing will complete us because we already ate complete. Be happy and think awesomely because you have everything you will ever need in yourself.
I agree with you but I really really want this even though I know I don't need it
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Sanshi wrote:
I just read yesterday that desire is a gift god made to us. I like that. I think it's something we give to ourselves (the higher part to the lower part) to be able to explore more of the world. Not following your desires is lazy, because you don't help the expansion of the universe.
Where did you read this, I would love to read it as well. Also like I said in my post this idea or desire just randomly popped in my head I was just like "I want .. Blah blah blah" now that I look back I've never wanted something like that I don't wanna say what the desire is. Anything is possible and I've finally put that in my belief system, so this desire is a gift from God?
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I think it was in the text about the 12 disciples by Neville.
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It's an interesting question and I don't think we'll ever know the answer. Not even scientists can agree on why we have desires. There's one big thing I've learned over the years: getting what we want and being happy are two very different things. I don't think desires are a gift from God. A long time ago, I desired to quite a challenge. The decision to quit felt like relief, a load off of my shoulders, I felt peaceful about it, according to Abe-Hicks it should have been the right choice since it felt good. But thankfully, I didn't quit, a person who scared the living daylights out of me wouldn't let me quit. And in the end, I was eternally grateful because all of that changed my life, I'm so glad I didn't quit even though I wanted to. The mind is powerful, but it can also be deceptive. Sometimes we'll find ourselves feeling good over desires that aren't really good for us but it's simply the mind's way of finding the "best" option given the circumstances in the moment. I think many of our desires come from the ego - it's way of trying to make us happy, but without understanding or discernment desire can be dangerous. Think about people who get sugar cravings when they have a lot of stress. Was their desire for the donuts God given, or just their mind's way of trying to bring them back to balance since it knows that sugary foods are comforting? But isn't it a weird way to deal with stress? We know sugar is unhealthy and leads to even more stress and unhealthiness. So there are times when our desires are just weird, maybe the ego-mind's imperfect way of trying to help us. That's why I think it's important to spend time to really get in touch with what we really desire and why we want it. Some desires are truly fulfilling, and others are just not.