what i want is a NEW start with her. clean slate. i want her to forgive me for my mistakes which shes severely mad at me for (now, probably just uncaring, indifferent.). i want us to be so in love and have an incredibly happy and non-toxic relationship with her

how do i affirm this in words or writing? i need some sort of mantra which describes this so i can say it tomyself when things look bad, or so i could just repeat it.

YesIWILL wrote:

what i want is a NEW start with her. clean slate. i want her to forgive me for my mistakes which shes severely mad at me for (now, probably just uncaring, indifferent.). i want us to be so in love and have an incredibly happy and non-toxic relationship with her

how do i affirm this in words or writing? i need some sort of mantra which describes this so i can say it tomyself when things look bad, or so i could just repeat it.

Affirm to yourself that she has forgiven you already. Visualize it too.   Script/journal it, if you have to      Also say that she loves you and is deeply in love with you


Affirmations

"She loves me"
" ---(insert name) and I are in a loving relationship"

"She's in love with me"

"She wants nobody but me"



Only ones I can think of off the top my head

You are creating the blockage. You don't think she will respond, so she doesn't. If this were a relative or just a friend - you wouldn't be checking the time and to see if something still said pending. You wouldn't care. You have to treat yourself like a prize

Avaelle wrote:

You are creating the blockage. You don't think she will respond, so she doesn't. If this were a relative or just a friend - you wouldn't be checking the time and to see if something still said pending. You wouldn't care. You have to treat yourself like a prize

You're right! I am. Thank you. After that meltdown last night, I'm feeling a lot better today. She's coming back Thank you Avaelle!

Sanshi wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

You are creating the blockage. You don't think she will respond, so she doesn't. If this were a relative or just a friend - you wouldn't be checking the time and to see if something still said pending. You wouldn't care. You have to treat yourself like a prize

That's very true. Think about all the people you know who haven't wished you merry Christmas. Do you care so much about it? Probably not. As long as you put her on a pedestal, you are vulnerable and you make it harder than it has to be.

You're right, Sanshi, thank you! She's coming back. I know I can do this.

GirlyGirl111 wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

thank you guys. its just so hard to ignore that she hates me and is still ignoring me. i mean, for someone who wants you out of their life, says they have no attraction to you, hates you, etc... how are you supposed to ignore that and believe she'll come back? this just ruined me. i just cant believe shed ever come back. itd take more than a miracle. she even ignored my "merry christmas"... guys...

Heyy there,

Now I'm going to try and be nice as possible but I'm not going to sugarcoat it. Ever since I've first heard your story... it has always been this. Do you realize that you are in the exact same place with the exact same story? Do you really not get that you're creating this??

Nothing will change if you don't change. It seems like you don't even believe in loa bc you don't even follow the basics. You don't believe it or feel it. All you do is doubt. How long are you going to stay trapped in this cycle?

Also, you are actually harassing her. No woman wants that. She has even threatened you with a restraining order! That shows that you don't even respect her wishes. You push her further away with this. You show her that you're emotionally unsteady. No woman wants that period. There's no way in hell that I would text, fb message, call someone who has clearly told me to stop. Just stop. Stop contacting her. Leave her alone. Step back and learn to love yourself.

If you can't even follow the basics and believe and trust, this ain't gonna work for you. You will be wasting your time and life away. You were in a hospital psych ward for goodness sakes. You are slowly killing yourself inside. No one is worth that... No one. I had a guy who behaved just like you and he pushed me away for good. He kept pestering me when I asked him to stop. I had to threaten him and I lost All attraction to him. I really don't like him period.

You need to ask yourself this as well. What if she's not the one? What if she really doesn't come back? Will you die? Just bc you love her doesn't mean she will come back. I think that person has to want to come back in some way or another. They have to feel something good to match up with you. Your doing nothing to make her even want you back. You are pushing her away. Leave her alone and let it be. You are a handsome young man, I'm sure you could eventually meet someone else you can fall for. If you don't get yourself together, you may have no other choice but to move on.

Hiya!

I got a LOT better, and even didn't talk to her for a while, lived my own life and had an amazing time! But I guess I went back into this style of thinking. I need to get myself out of it before it "stays" like this or gets worse haha! 

Nothing will change if I don't change. I like that a lot, thank you!! Well, I really don't want to get back into that cycle. I've lived off faith for a while, I can get back there! So what if this current reality looks hopeless? If I'm the creator of my own reality, I can change that

You're right. I do need to step back. Thank you so much for the reminder! I do love myself, I guess doubt just creeped in after last night's event. I'm me. I'm amazing I can get her back. 

And that's what I guess scares me. I'm sure I pushed her to that length and more. I admitted myself to that place for the depression and the anxiety of this whole ordeal. I can't let a girl affect me this badly. I have my own life too. I can't give my power away to somebody else. It's not fair for her, it's not fair for me. I just hope that through the LoA, despite being where I am now with her, that I can still get her back. She says all attraction has been lost, and it's showing that she means it... so if I want to get her back, the only way I can do that is to trust in the LoA completely, and do not doubt.

And you're right! Veronica says we can have anyone we want, and she and I really did work out VERY well, super compatible for the longest time. So despite the current situation, I'm hoping that she will come back. If Veronica says I can have anybody, then I just need to trust that I can get her back. Maybe Clean my room, imagine her with me in a stronger sense throughout the day. Live in my mind, you know? And thank you, I really really appreciate that

I really appreciate you taking the time to write this It means the world to me. Thank you so much!



Guys, I will get her back. I'm not going to let a setback like last night hold me back! I CAN DO THIS. I WILL DO THIS!


I'm going to watch a movie and eat some chocolate. Don't judge ;) Hahaha!

 

Stop worrying about it. Stop focusing on the current reality. Focus on the desire you want.