Hi,
Don't give up and don't pay attention to what he said. Focus on the end result but do stop contacting him. He will contact you even if it takes time.
The guy that I desire is also in a committed relationship and he has also said mean things and he blocked me for a year and asked me not to contact him coz he can't be in touch.
Then one day.. a year later..even more. He blocked me on  5th October  2015 a few days before my bday and unblocked me 15th January this year.  Today, we are in contact again and speak often although it is still not like I want it to be and he is still in a relationship...but anything is possible..we just have to work on ignoring current reality and I do urge you not to contact him. Just continue with the techniques.. and trust me he will contact you. Back then I wasn't aware of LOA and how the Universe works but I did believe that we will be in touch again and I did visualise.

You're too focused on *reality* and *not ready*. Read through the forum and get a grasp on LOA . You can have exactly what you want, so don't fret.

GirlyGirl111 wrote:

I would seriously advise you to stop contacting him. Don't contact him at all. Point blank....period. That will be better for you in the long run. Go ghost. Leave him the **** alone. That's best for now.

People can say whatever and mean it. Give him time to cool off and possibly miss you. Seriously, right now... leave him alone and let it be. You should step back for awhile, learn more about loa. You are not ready yet... you need a deeper understanding of loa. Once you truly get it, you'll know what to do.

Thank you GirlyGirl111 . Point well taken . I'm taking his advice . I'm leaving him the **** alone !!
I've got so much to learn . It's all about me right now . Not saying it's going to be easy , but it's necessary,

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Tumom wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

Not his words hurt, but what you think about them.

Sanshi, I don't understand what you mean .
He said LEAVE ME THE **** ALONE
YOURE PISSING ME OFF
YOURE HARASSING ME
They are hurtful , what should I be thinking of them other than what he's saying ?

I get what Sanshi means. Unrelated but similar. I was verbally harassed by a guy in a pub a few weeks ago who made sexist comments about my body and what he liked about it. A complete stranger. Insults from people like that mean zero to me because it is a reflection on him, who I think rude and ignorant, and not about me at all.

I know it's not the same situation but it is about what you make the words mean to you.

Have you been contacting this bloke? Just don't if so, and hard as it is focus on other things and take advice from people on the forum.

I wish you a great Christmas.

Hie....

Its been a while that I wrote a msg to someone here....my own doubts kept me away.....but your thread really made me wonder.....
Firstly, you are not alone as said by many....so cheers to that! Now....you have just mentioned those harsh words and there is no background (which is good as u are not telling your old story - courtesy Sanshi lolz) so I consider there was a relationship which is not there anymore. Cool. something similar happened with me but the major step one needs to take here is to STOP contacting!!! This seems very easy to say and trust me its MOST DIFFICULT....I have fought this war....its a battle u fight with yourself....I couldnt stay away for more than 8 minutes from my love.....today its 8 months I am in NC. Yes it was ME who stopped.

Sometimes, we attract a different version of a person we love, currently he is a different version. Can u identify to that? No right. So stay away!!! Do that. Respect his decision. He already said he will contact u if he has to talk. So lady just take a step back. What are you scared of? You know, throughout my relationship I was SCARED of losing my love and it made me do the worst stuffs....do everything what I did NOT WANT TO DO.....I became a version which was not me.....so right now, get in tune with that REAL version of you. You are THAT woman who atracted him in first place. Get back!!!!! I know its terrible for u right now, but girl, u have to take a call. U give it time and simply work on your self....it takes months....try...whenever u feel down,,,,start talking in the forum,,,,read articles, watch movies.....remember u have to get your confidence back. The moment you are feeling fine and OK with being yourself. Then you will be in a position to attract him back. Right now, its just about you and ONLY you. So have a well recovery back to that confident self of yours!!!! Kudos!!!