Seeing as I'm online tonight I just thought I'd share another message that has taken me a long time to understand but if you can get it, then you'll save yourself a lot of pain and wasted time. It is only natural to want to be back with your ex the second after you break up if you still love them. It feels like the faster the better and there are lots of videos on youtube that say things like 'if you don't act now, you're ex could be gone forever' . Well, the truth is, that's not true and actually, the opposite is very often the case. Take it from me as a person who has got exs back 3 months after a break up only to break up again, the sooner is not the better. I have also seen it happen to other people I know. Time and timing are different, time is the hours on a clock, timing is the growth of the universe and of yourself. If you go into a situation when you are not 100% emotionally and mentally ready just because it pops up and you think you need to grab it now, like it's an item on sale at a shop, then you're most likely going to lose it within weeks or months. 

It doesn't matter if the person you want may be starting to see someone else, it doesn't even matter about how serious they may be with someone else. It doesn't matter if they're moving away in a month and you want to get back together so that you can move with them, or if anything else is going on that forces you to want to pick up speed in the reconciliation. The most important thing is how you feel as a person. To reconcile and make it last, you need to be 100% over the break up, worked on any of your personal issues, got your life to where you would like it to be to feel fufilled and to just be satisfied in yourself so that you're fresh and ready. 

If you get back together too soon without any work on yourself, you will be entering the same situation that ended up in the break up. This takes on a cycle called on again off again. To not get into that cycle, you need to just be able to be ok with allowing as much time as you need to become a secure and well rounded and happy person. Then you need to look at the person you want and judge whether they are in the same way. They may not be, and it's not enough for just one person to be ready and balanced-both must be. 

So take your time Life is long