Blessedck wrote:

Hi Hisoneandonly,

Just like everyone else on this forum, I want you to be with your guy and live a happy life. I'm sorry if this sounds mean but I'm very upfront and I just want to say that if you don't change yourself then I don't think you are going to get your guy.

I have read all of Cherished's awesome advice but it seems like you don't even want to try. And trust me, you are not the only person on this forum that has been or is upset. But everyone wants to change their life and they all are making an effort but you really aren't.

I didn't want to post this because I didn't want to offend or hurt you but I felt as if you needed a reality check. If you don't make a conscious effort to change your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs then you are going to be stuck in the same position that you are in today. This is going to sound really mean but right now everyone wants to help you but if you keep repeating the same sob story in weeks or months to come then people are just going to get annoyed and ignore you.

I don't want you to reach that place. So snap out if it. Life is not perfect but we have the power to make it perfect. If you really want this guy then tell the Universe that "no matter what happens this guy is only yours and you don't give a damn about what your physical reality suggests"

I really hope you make an effort to change or else nothing is going to change. I'm sorry if I hurt you but I just want you to be happy with your guy and have lots of cute kids and be happy!

 

Hey don't worry ;) I understand that it's for my own good. I can see all of my problems. Especially when I'm happy and attracting him back I'll always think of what he have done to hurt me..I'm trying to get rid of it...
 

Ok great! Now, try to hold onto the feelings that came when you wrote those sentences. Because if you can do that, you will begin to vibrate differently. And when you do THAT, you will begin to attract him back.

Yup.  So what you have to do is stop telling us that. Because now you just undid those lovely affirmations and we are back we the missing him vibration. Where you will attract more missing him! Please understand that I have been where you are. I really have. I get your despair and your fear and your anxiety completely. But this works! If you can take a leap of faith and trust that it works! And stop telling the worst love story ever! Because that's what you continue to do. What you must do instead is focus ONLY ON WHAT YOU WANT, AND THE FEELINGS THAT IT WOULD GENERATE. Because that's the vibration you must be putting forth in order to attract a wonderful relationship.

So. Let's try again. How do you WANT TO FEEL? Imagine feeling that way. Hold onto those feelings, and experience those emotions. You can do that right now. Begin to write only what you do want from now on.. Just try!

Cherished wrote:

Yup.  So what you have to do is stop telling us that. Because now you just undid those lovely affirmations and we are back we the missing him vibration. Where you will attract more missing him! Please understand that I have been where you are. I really have. I get your despair and your fear and your anxiety completely. But this works! If you can take a leap of faith and trust that it works! And stop telling the worst love story ever! Because that's what you continue to do. What you must do instead is focus ONLY ON WHAT YOU WANT, AND THE FEELINGS THAT IT WOULD GENERATE. Because that's the vibration you must be putting forth in order to attract a wonderful relationship.

So. Let's try again. How do you WANT TO FEEL? Imagine feeling that way. Hold onto those feelings, and experience those emotions. You can do that right now. Begin to write only what you do want from now on.. Just try!

 
I want us to have a joyful and a very romantic relationship together. I want him to feel like he wants to protect me like all times, I want him to try to heal me from what he did to me. I want us to have a happy family together, I want him to love me unconditionally, I want him to keep feeling like he's afraid of losing me, I want him to contact me and give me faith , I want him to feels that he's wrong and he wants to make things right, I want him to feel and thinks that I'm the one. I want to feel happy, protected, cared, and loved by him.

Last edited by Hisoneandonly (10/13/2015 7:31 pm)

Hisoneandonly wrote:

Blessedck wrote:

Hisoneandonly,

You can have whatever you want!! Don't worry. Everytime you think about anything that makes you upset, ask yourself if you want to live the same old life that you have been living or if you want a change. I know it seems hard to believe but we just have to believe it before we see it!

You can do this!!😃

  
Thank you so much for your encouragement! Thankyou so much blessedck! Yea, I'm still working on the doubting and believe part. I'm still scared that "if we gone NC for so long, will we still feel the same...?" Like we've missed a part of each other's life... will we still love each other and feel like we used to?...I'm working on the past bad experiences..so I used hooponopono to heal myself but it's not working...

Hisoneandonly,

You're welcome!! Don't worry about the NC because if you keep thinking about it then that's all you will get. I know it's hard not to think about what you are currently seeing or bad experiences, but I realized I'm not gaining anything by thinking about the past or negative events. Honestly, I feel hurt and crappy after thinking about the past and I realized what is the point especially since I can't go in the past to change it.

But if you think that good things are possible then you will see that your life can change! Patience and blind faith are hard keep but it will be worth it! Good luck!