jenbeckley1992 wrote:

Don't give up

Definitely not waving the white flag yet.. no way! I had a low moment and let his words affect me instead of just trusting in my beliefs on LOA and that I create my own reality, feeling better today

Sanshi wrote:

Blissful wrote:

 and I know I don't have to accept that, but he is creating his own reality too, he believes what he is telling himself and that's why I find it so much easier to live in my imagined reality when he is not physically in front of me telling me these things lol. I do believe I can be a positive influence on him and I do not wish for him to feel this way but how do you win out over their beliefs?
 

Yes, he creates his reality, but that can't affect your reality. You interact with a version of him. If he chooses to experience depression, he will in his parallel universe. But that doesn't have to be the universe you experience. You can choose to interact with a different version of him.
 

Okay, this actually makes a lot of sense! of course we all create our own reality, I think I trip up because it hurts me knowing this is the reality he is choosing and I don't want him to feel that way.. but now I realize those thoughts don't help him at all, they just confirm his reality and shift me further from mine. No more focusing on what is! I feel so much more aligned today. We enjoyed a lovely night together, I cooked him home made pizza, we cuddled on the couch and watched our favorite shows together. He confessed he hadn't watched any of the latest episodes of TV show we used to watch together, which made me smile because he can't seem to watch them without me!

Sanshi wrote:

Blissful wrote:

Okay, this actually makes a lot of sense! of course we all create our own reality, I think I trip up because it hurts me knowing this is the reality he is choosing and I don't want him to feel that way..

But you don't know if he lives this version. There are infinite parallel reality, how are the odds that your consciousness and his consciousness share the same reality? The reality in which he is depressed will always exist, equally the reality in which he is in constant bliss will always exists. You can't add or take away anything from creation. Creation is finished and complete. But you can choose what you want to experience and that has nothing to do with him. And what does it mean when something hurts you? Your Inner Being has a different opinion than you.

This gives me a lot to think about.. really need to get a handle on not focusing on what the other person is doing/my current reality. And the truth is nothing can hurt me, I choose how I feel and react to a situation. do you mean my inner being has a different opinion to me in regards to being hurt? Like if something doesn't feel good then it must not be true and therefore not in alignment with my inner being...
 

Sanshi wrote:

Blissful wrote:

do you mean my inner being has a different opinion to me in regards to being hurt? Like if something doesn't feel good then it must not be true and therefore not in alignment with my inner being...
 

Truth is a strange word in a universe in which literally everything is true. It's not in line with your inner truth. The moment a desire is born within you, your Inner Being shifts her frequency to the frequency of the parallel reality in which you would experience your desire. Your feelings tell you how good your vibration matches the vibration of your Inner Being. Feeling hurt is a very bad feeling. So the thought you thought before you felt hurt is very far apart from the truth/vibration of your Inner Being and therefore isn't serving you.
 

I am enjoying this discussing and it is helping me to re-align and re-discover what I have known all along. I feel that I attracted this thread because I needed to face these doubts and my resistance towards my desire. It is my understanding that when we feel bad about something it is an opportunity to recognize that this bad feeling is in conflict with what we want thus confirming that our desire is still strong within us and we should instead reach for better feeling thoughts about what we want. Catching a bad thought early and terminating it is what I am currently working on. A negative thought/emotion can so easily snowball into such a place of despair like it did for me a few days ago because I let a current condition interfere with my creation. I am still learning and working on this and appreciate all advice and guidance I receive along the way.

If we did not have any beliefs regarding lack, we would not be able to attach our happiness to a thing, person, or event, because we would know and feel an overwhelming presence of love and infinite possibilities always present in our hearts, overflowing from the inside out, not from the outside in.

Some words from Bentinho Massaro, the above statement really inspired me and the below is an explanation on what he is talking about.

Attachment is misplaced happiness.

Our attachments to certain things is due to the fact that we have come to associate our good feelings with the presence of certain items, people, or circumstances in our lives, and bad feelings with the seeming lack thereof.
It is really that simple.
In order to free yourself from an attachment to, let’s say, a person, you will need to somehow show yourself—realize—that your happiness did not come from that person, it came from your very own heart, your very own being, and was simply channeled into your body-mind experience as a result of you giving yourself permission to feel good upon seeing or experiencing the other person.

What is a good feeling?
A good feeling is nothing more than to be in alignment with your True Self’s natural wavelength. Literally, feeling good is the result of having the vibrations of your mind-portion dance in sync—in harmony—with the underlying ever-present wavelength of your True Being; or: your true frequency.

What triggers a good feeling?
A good feeling is triggered by our mind’s perspective of that moment being in alignment with our True Being’s perspective of that moment.
Develop the habit of asking yourself when you’re feeling bad: “How would my Higher Self view this experience? Would it also project all the lack that I project into it, or would it view it from a place of knowing infinite possibilities, endless abundance, true faith and unconditional love?”
When we look at our life and perceive an abundance of love, possibility, potential for satisfaction, money, resources, the ability to do what we want to do, free will, appreciation, and so on, we feel good because that is how our True Being perceives every second of our reality.
When we feel good, it doesn’t really have anything to do with the actual circumstances, for they are inherently neutral and without meaning. When we feel good, it signifies that our way of seeing life is presently in alignment with our True Being’s way of seeing life.

The source of all negative emotions: “Believing in lack”

As soon as we think in terms of lack—which I sometimes call the “anti-thought” because it goes against everything true about Creation—what happens is that your personal vibration does not match up at all with the vibration of your True Being, which is Existence, or Creation itself.

The bad feeling you get is the distance you feel between your view and the true view of Existence itself.

This is the only reason most people on this planet feel so miserable, scared, confused, and betrayed most of the time: their minds have been taught to believe, through and through, in the existence of something that absolutely does not exist: lack.

Hence, every time you project that something is missing or lacking, or that something could potentially be missing or lacking someday (fear of the future), whether that is a loved one you lost, or a loved one you imagine you might lose some day, what is mechanically—energetically—happening is that you are attempting to separate yourself from the fundamental laws of Creation.
You are, in a sense, creating a gap between yourself and the core frequency of Creation, which is limitless Love, Infinity, Abundance.
You attempt this every time you think something rooted in the belief that “lack exists” or that “lack might exist someday.”The beauty of this insight is that it cuts through the heart of every piece of suffering known to humankind. There literally is no type of suffering that I have not been able to trace back to this core idea of lack. Try it out and see for yourself.
All of our suffering—all of our resistance and contraction as a human being—whether physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual (but it is especially obvious with mental and emotional suffering) is based in the idea that lack can occur or that it has already occurred.
You might not believe that it is this simple right now, but as soon as you start looking for it, you will see that the idea that lack exists or can exist is the root cause of all of human suffering. This is a far more accurate perception than to suggest that “desire is the cause of all suffering.”