1 - Blissful
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Think it might be time to say goodbye to him
Hi Everyone,
I really debated whether I would post this as I don't like to put too much focus on my current reality as I am trying to shift into my desired one.. but I am having a difficult time with this and wanted some advice. Basically I have been working on raising my vibration daily, giving my self love and positive thoughts and I have tried not to focus on my love too much as this is a sure way to have my vibe come crashing down. My love is suffering from severe depression and anxiety which is his reasoning for pushing me away and not wanting to be in a relationship with me, he has no self worth and thinks I am better off without him. I use a few different techniques that make me feel good and I visualize him telling me he is feeling better/happy. I don't initiate contact, I try to give him space to heal himself but over the last 6 weeks he has been msg'ing me, asking how I am and arranging for us to meet up. Each time we meet up he flirts, he's affectionate he's smiling and happy and we usually end up sleeping together. He'll tell me he'll always love me but he can't give me anything and that I should move on and find someone else. He's basically just friends with benefits at this point and I know the general opinion on this is that it is wrong and I deserve better and I shouldn't let him use me etc. but I honestly thought I can love him unconditionally and just enjoy the time we spend together and just hope I am having a positive affect on him mentally.
I am now not sure if this is still the right approach.. I asked if he wanted to come over tonight and he said he doesn't want to give me the wrong impression, but he enjoys my company and would like to hang out if it is under the right circumstances. It upset me and now I'm not sure I can keep going forward with this kind of interaction but at the same time I don't want to loose him.. very confused on what I should do and thinking maybe it's time to let him go even though it scares me
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Re: Think it might be time to say goodbye to him
Just relaaax! He is there, he is talking to you, he is sleeping with you, he is not going anywhere. Trust divine timing, don't rush things. Trust the universe, don't fight, don't overthink,let it flow to you. Visualize him evolving from his insecurities, you have the power. You can do it. Everytime you go to sleep, think the best of you and him and the perfect relationship you 2 have, send him love, allow your manifestation, receive.
Many blessings!! Best wishes!!
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Positivity wrote:
Just relaaax! He is there, he is talking to you, he is sleeping with you, he is not going anywhere. Trust divine timing, don't rush things. Trust the universe, don't fight, don't overthink,let it flow to you. Visualize him evolving from his insecurities, you have the power. You can do it. Everytime you go to sleep, think the best of you and him and the perfect relationship you 2 have, send him love, allow your manifestation, receive.
Many blessings!! Best wishes!!
This was good to read.. you're right, I am trying to rush things.. I want more from him then he is able to give and I think this is coming from a place of fear. I fear that he will never be able to give me what I want and I will be going through limbo of having him but not being in a committed relationship. I know I need to ignore my current situation but it is hard when he is slapping me in the face with it every time I see him. This is why I am unsure of the right path to take.. I need to relax and calm myself down, I am anxious about seeing him tonight, I just need to enjoy his company and just be light hearted about it, I hope I can be.. I hope I can find my strength
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Thread Starter- Mitzie
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Relax.. It will all come to pass for you if You Believe and be patient. Just know its happening. We are here for you and try to be happy. Everything will come in time.
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Hi Everyone,
My love is suffering from severe depression and anxiety which is his reasoning for pushing me away and not wanting to be in a relationship with me, he has no self worth and thinks I am better off without him.
No, that's not the reason. The only reason ever is within your consciousness. And him suffering from depression is a story you are telling. Is this what you wish for him? I guess it isn't. So start seeing him the way you want him to see. Don't look at your creation and feel bad about it. Shift your focus.
I feel that you understand this stuff very well in theory, but it hasn't sunken in what the practical implication is. You never have to ponder on any situation. You created it anyway and every other option exists. So why looking at what is, as long as you don't like it? Don't take reality so seriously. It's as real as your imagination is.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
- jenbeckley1992
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Re: Think it might be time to say goodbye to him
Don't give up
- happygirl97
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Don't lose hope. You have come so far you are in great contact with him.
you just have to tell another story.
you CAN do it!
give thanks for everything you do have right now!
She believed she could, so she did.
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Relax.. It will all come to pass for you if You Believe and be patient. Just know its happening. We are here for you and try to be happy. Everything will come in time.
Thank you Mitzie.. I hadn't been so low in a long time and I kind of just lost focus on everything I believe in. I feel back on track now, thank you for the support 
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Thread Starter- Blissful
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Hi Everyone,
My love is suffering from severe depression and anxiety which is his reasoning for pushing me away and not wanting to be in a relationship with me, he has no self worth and thinks I am better off without him.No, that's not the reason. The only reason ever is within your consciousness. And him suffering from depression is a story you are telling. Is this what you wish for him? I guess it isn't. So start seeing him the way you want him to see. Don't look at your creation and feel bad about it. Shift your focus.
I feel that you understand this stuff very well in theory, but it hasn't sunken in what the practical implication is. You never have to ponder on any situation. You created it anyway and every other option exists. So why looking at what is, as long as you don't like it? Don't take reality so seriously. It's as real as your imagination is.
This is how I know I was stuck in my current reality, I didn't even realize I was telling this story and therefor accepting it as the truth. This is where things get tricky for me because he is constantly telling me about his depression, how he feels miserable all the time, how he cant give me what I want and that he wants to move overseas blah blah blah.. and I know I don't have to accept that, but he is creating his own reality too, he believes what he is telling himself and that's why I find it so much easier to live in my imagined reality when he is not physically in front of me telling me these things lol. I do believe I can be a positive influence on him and I do not wish for him to feel this way but how do you win out over their beliefs? depression has manifested in him and I just have to keep sending him love and visualizing him in my imagined reality as healthy, happy and full of love for me.
Haven't had a bad day in a while so I know this is just my fears and doubts bubbling at the surface because I keep putting attention on what is and what he is saying to me instead of just trusting the universe and my own power. I am definitely still learning and I'm grateful for the advice and kick up the butt! Thank you Sanshi
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Thread Starter- Sanshi
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and I know I don't have to accept that, but he is creating his own reality too, he believes what he is telling himself and that's why I find it so much easier to live in my imagined reality when he is not physically in front of me telling me these things lol. I do believe I can be a positive influence on him and I do not wish for him to feel this way but how do you win out over their beliefs?
Yes, he creates his reality, but that can't affect your reality. You interact with a version of him. If he chooses to experience depression, he will in his parallel universe. But that doesn't have to be the universe you experience. You can choose to interact with a different version of him.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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