No that's actually not what I'm saying.  I'm saying let go of the need to CONTROL this.  Just learn to be peaceful with just YOU for a little while.   If you want him you can have him!  Of course,  if he's the one you desire then go for it!  But don't do it from a place of desperation and need.  It won't work.  Don't give up on HIM,  but give up trying to force him back because you're miserable.  Learn to love him unconditionally, which is loving him just because he exists and makes the world a more beautiful place. Spend time working on yourself, building your strength, your self-worth. Through meditation, exercise, affirmations, nature.. And appreciate the wonderful things about your guy- but not to make anything happen!  Just because it feels great to appreciate. Can you do that just for a while?  Have you begun any of the processes I discussed with you?  Which ones?

Hisoneandonly wrote:

I did the first process, it hurts to know he might not come back, or he might end up with someone else better than me. It hurts to know those. I know I can be play with my own. I'm okay without him. But I just want him back...yes, he's my desire...

 
I'm not sure why you continue to write about those experiences then?

You have to try and work through those feelings though. And raise your vibration. And bring yourself to a state of belief about it. We keep going around in circles here. I gave you processes to try. TWENTY TWO processes. How are they going? Have you tried anything that everybody has been suggesting? Scared is a very low vibration. And you are the only person who can fix that. By thinking different, better, more positive and productive thoughts. Try and give us something to work with here. Lots of people are trying to help you. So please make an effort to stop discussing what you DON'T want, and talk to us about what you do want and WHY you want it. HOW THAT WILL FEEL to have it. This is not a counselling forum. It's LAW OF ATTRACTION, where we all totally believe that we get back what we put out. And what you are putting out continuously, over and over and over and over is the fact that your guy is gone and he may never come back. That's what you're creating every day that you continue to talk and think and feel that way. So how about you finally start to take everyone's advice and RESIST THE URGE to continue reporting back to us so negatively? imagine how your guy would feel about you if he read all of these posts? Guess what? Your vibration is FAR more powerful than words. He can feel this energy you continue to send out, and it is definitely not an energy that is attractive. There have been 1586 views of this thread, and every person reading this is cheering you on to FINALLY grasp the fact that YOU CREATE YOUR REALITY. So, try right now to create a magnificent reality. If you write it, you will think it. If you think it enough, it will become habit. If it becomes habit, you'll start to believe it. When you believe it, IT WILL COME TRUE 😘

Last edited by Cherished (10/12/2015 4:08 am)

i cant help you. You have to do it by yourself! I can only keep reminding you how to do it. You have to stop thinking those thoughts. You must stop saying it can't happen. What if it CAN happen? Could you ask yourself that instead?

Hi Hisoneandonly,

Just like everyone else on this forum, I want you to be with your guy and live a happy life. I'm sorry if this sounds mean but I'm very upfront and I just want to say that if you don't change yourself then I don't think you are going to get your guy.

I have read all of Cherished's awesome advice but it seems like you don't even want to try. And trust me, you are not the only person on this forum that has been or is upset. But everyone wants to change their life and they all are making an effort but you really aren't.

I didn't want to post this because I didn't want to offend or hurt you but I felt as if you needed a reality check. If you don't make a conscious effort to change your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs then you are going to be stuck in the same position that you are in today. This is going to sound really mean but right now everyone wants to help you but if you keep repeating the same sob story in weeks or months to come then people are just going to get annoyed and ignore you.

I don't want you to reach that place. So snap out if it. Life is not perfect but we have the power to make it perfect. If you really want this guy then tell the Universe that "no matter what happens this guy is only yours and you don't give a damn about what your physical reality suggests"

I really hope you make an effort to change or else nothing is going to change. I'm sorry if I hurt you but I just want you to be happy with your guy and have lots of cute kids and be happy!