If you know anything about LOA then you already know our thoughts create our situations and when we put feelings behind our thoughts whether consciously or unconsciously that is when things start to manifest. So I first encourage you to learn about LOA and when applying it's practices do them on your own life and when you are in a better place, then make a decision. The thing is when we desire it is already done. Our relationships are already as beautiful and exciting as we imagine them, we just need to get on the right vibration. The fact that you still say should I or it's trouble then you are preventing your manifestation from manifesting. So you make your own decisions but it always starts with your own desire and if there is negativity behind it, or it is desired from a place of negativity that is what will manifest. 

If you want him, it is entirely possible to have him. So don't worry about whether it's possible or not. The story you told has nothing to do with whether or not you can get him back, and nothing to do with the type of relationship you can have with him. Only you can answer the question of whether you want him or you want to move on. Both options are valid. It's just a matter of what you desire.

Last edited by sunny (12/03/2016 11:58 am)

elydizzy wrote:

                I had lets call him a boyfriend, at first the relationship was casual, we lived in different countries but in 2 months he travel to spain 5 times to spend weekends or many days with me.... he is spanish, his family actually lives where im currently living, so his mother at first was happy with the relation.                       After a while things were not as casual to me anymore, he was living at my place 3 to 4 days every 2 weeks, we have great chemistry and we were so close, he trusted me things he never shared before.                        Everything change when i asked him to define the relationship, and his last trip he was here 7 days so he's mother was mad because he was staying at my place and not with here, and she tried to spend more time with him....that i understood but i wanted a shared time ....when i told him that he said that he was embarrassed that i met his mother. Whats not normal is that neither him or his brother both over 30 years old never had a committed relationship or plans to get married.                        After that 7 day fiasco fighting almost daily, he went back to belgium and everything went down, he called me crying that he was anxiety attacks, that i was too intense, and that he was afraid of me...i was like WTF?                        We spend 5 days fighting, trying to work things out and on friday he says ok...we are going back to what we were and i´ll be at spain on the 11th. Saturday i was at work we didn't talk much and on sunday when i called him he said that he wasn't happy with getting back together, that e talked with his mother and she said that he doesn't own me anything and he has this big trip planned to Asia for 6 months on the 19th, this is a trip he was actually happy because it was like a sabbatical that he really worked for, but when that date was close he was worried about missing me and some days he said he didn't want to leave.... but the thing is that after his mother advice he decided to leave me....and actually blocked me after from whatsapp and Skype.                          3 days after he broke up with me i found out i was pregnant, so i contact him through Facebook and he connects via Skype for 5 minutes and told me that i was insane and i was only telling him this to get him back....he said he had french lessons and we would talk later....he blocked me from everything.                            Only one off his friends keep in touch with me, always talking me to abort and that Xavi didn't believe that i was pregnant.                             I asked him, to tell Xavi to come as it was planned on the 11th so he can come to a specialist with me to talk options..he denied and he denied me the opportunity to even talk....according to his friend because i manipulate him.                              When i got my first ultrasound i send it to his friend who actually was surprised and told me ohh you really are pregnant....and i was like i can't believe that i already show them the lab work that were a blood test and they keep not believing me.                               After that i told his friend that i was going to keep the baby, i didn't care what he wanted, because he was not willing to be part of my life so i didn't need him at all, and didn't want anything from him.                                2 days after that i received and email from xavi, written in the most cold way, as it was send to someone you don't even know....three phrases I don't believe you are pregnant. If you are is your fault and you look for it to try to allure me but it dis the opposite effect. Is in the best interest for the baby, not yours, that you have an abortion immediately.                                   After that mail, i had and anxiety crisis and have a spontaneous abortion the next day.                                    I email Xavi that i had the abortion and i was admitted in the ER for the bleeding and he answered 3 days after saying he hopes im ok with the bleeding, that he has many doubts but we will hurt each other if we talk so its better to not be in touch.                                      I answered that i can't believed he was this cold, that i needed answers and to know how he could change from being the perfect guy, loving, caring in this monster that doesn't care about anything....                                     he never answered, off course he is in this 6 months trip in which according to his friend he's purpose is to forget about me....ahh i forgot to tell you after the abortion his friend blocked me too, first send me a message like sorry i can't help you anymore but i can't keep talking to you anymore.                                      So now im lost, i lost my love, my baby and i have this hole in my soul...cant stop crying and the truth is that if he came back i will really do my best to forgive him, because i love him and i have the believe that when i baby is suppose to be born he choose the soul of his parents, so i know that if we get back together i can have the family i was suppose to, that i dreamed off.                                          i need at least an explanation to understand how he was brainwashed against me like that.                                            And its difficult cause everybody it mad at him, and tell me that he show he's true colors and doesn't deserve...that i should forget him but i think he really was brainwashed or somebody did something because he was crying for me, for us one day and 24 hs later he was captain cold and it was like i never existed in his life......                                            So you think you can help me? i tried to do what Veronica says in her books and videos and try to be positive but it beats me and i always fall in the misery back.....
                                             What you think...it worth to take the trouble with someone that hurt me like that or should i let go

First   I am so sorry about the baby    I understand the feeling of the hole    

No one can tell you what is best for you but you    you must search your heart and soul  for that answer
if you truly love him   and feel he is "the one"   its worth it      

If that is the case   definately hang with is on the forum     I would also go to YouTube and listen to all of Veronica's videos   and the videos here suggested on the forum       get yourself in a positive mood   feel good 

If the negatives outweigh   your love for him      still  hang on the forum and manifest someone else  



 

I'm sorry you feel this way but the good news is it's totally doable to have him back and have a better relationship than before. Focus on you first, make yourself happy. You have to love you to manifest love and in general. Then focus on the relationship you want with him, once you're aligned it'll flow into your existence. We all believe in you here, you've got this!

I think you need to stop listening to what other people are saying to you about your relationship. (NOT ON HERE) I had to do this -- Go to a room where you can be by yourself and will be for a while. Then just sit and think about what you really want. If you chose that you want him then make your mind up to go after him using the law.  Then start not talking about the relationship to your friends. What we decide is our own business and we are here to support you either way . But its up to you, If you want him you can have him. I have a lot of negative talk around me also but I chose not to listen to it. We all will get our desire and it was up to what each of us wanted not what others wanted. So be good to yourself and think about what you want and go get him (if he is what you want) Give yourself time. We are here for you.