Oh and I read a lot about Dual Souls lately and they say you should break the contact because otherwise it won't change...
but I don't feel very well thinking about taking such a step. I was so happy bringing him back in my life and eventhough we're only in contact about whatsapp and the game right now i don't want to lose that either.

Sanshi wrote:

So, this reply will be blunt (but I think helpful, if you take it). If you prefer sugarcoating, don't read it.

Sorry to say that, but right now you are on the way to push him away again. You completely make him responsible for your feelings. You try to make him your world and the cause for your happiness and he just don't want to be that and he can't be that. If you want a relationship with him, you can't be needy and look at the lack of communication and expect things to change. LoA just doesn't work that way. I used to be a big drama queen myself. "Why didn't you text? You always have time for your friends, but not for meeee. You don't love me!". Did I get anything out of this attitude? No, of course not. It lead to him stepping back even more and finally to the breakup. You have to find a way to deal with your own emotions. You have to understand that your emotions have nothing to do with him, therefore it's called YOUR emotions. Your emotions are your guidance system. They want to show you where your thoughts go in a wrong direction. So, when you feel bad, because of his behaviour (you think it's because of his behaviour) step back for a minute and ponder what thought you had in your mind. The reason for every feeling is a thought that isn't in line with what you want. So, don't react blindly to your emotions, but use them as the tool they are. Do you know that moment before you send a text you know you shouldn't? Don't send this text the next time, but think about where your feeling is coming from.
 

This is soooo true ... and it opens my eyes ... right now I'm talking with him about that... he said that he just doesn't like my expectations and that I always assume him something if he doesn't want or can't meet up... that I'm breaking the ease and that's so 'ugghhh' :/
But how can I stop me from doing that and still can meet him?

Sanshi wrote:

Ironically, you doing that is the very reason why you can't meet up. You feel lack of him and that's what you get more of.
I recently met a new guy and in the beginning, I felt as if I would lose everything I had learned so far. I become attached, found me waiting for him coming online and it felt terrible, when he didn't come. So, what did I do? I made the decision that my happiness is the most important thing in the world and started to listen to my emotions. I started to be okay with him being not online for a day, but the second day was still hard and made me unhappy. And guess what? He disappeared completely. After crying myself to sleep for two nights, I decided that enough was enough. And I shifted my focus radically. I ignored him ignoring me and assumed him texting me every day. It just took a few days to manifest and now it unfolds beautifully. There is no point in having expectations, because he acts according to your vibration anyway - there is no other way for him.

You're right... but it's so hard... It went so well last week and until yesterday we had a daily contact but it was just not enough for me... I want to meet him and hug him and kiss him... And then I start to miss him and push him to a date and then he starts trying to escape from me...

So you think if I'm focus on my happiness and on me it will become better and he wants to meet up again?

 

Sanshi wrote:

It's only hard, because you focus on What Is. If you could focus on what you want, you wouldn't miss him, because you would experience kissing him and hugging him in your mind. This would evoke the same feelings within you that you had, if you would actually doing it. I know, you want the "real" experience, but I think one thing you have to learn to really get this whole LoA thing is that your imagination is as real as your so called reality. When I heard that the first time, it sounded to me as if people would try to convince me to be delusional so that I wouldn't notice that my reality is still the same. Yeah, I want to convince you to be delusional, but if you are, your reality can't stay the same. If you could be satisfied with your imagination just for a while without comparing it to reality, you would be surprised how fast change can happen.

Meet up with him vibrationally. Think about what you'd like to do with him and set a date. Go there in your imagination on that date, feel the good feelings of love, fun, joy, whatever. When you wake up the next day, remember how great the date was and go there again with your feelings. Don't think about reality just for a while.

Well I'm trying to do this by almost daily scripting and visualizing before going to sleep.. so you think that's not enough?

Since today I'm restarting Veronica's challenge as well because I recognized that I was way happier as I did the challenge.

Sanshi wrote:

It's only hard, because you focus on What Is. If you could focus on what you want, you wouldn't miss him, because you would experience kissing him and hugging him in your mind. This would evoke the same feelings within you that you had, if you would actually doing it. I know, you want the "real" experience, but I think one thing you have to learn to really get this whole LoA thing is that your imagination is as real as your so called reality. When I heard that the first time, it sounded to me as if people would try to convince me to be delusional so that I wouldn't notice that my reality is still the same. Yeah, I want to convince you to be delusional, but if you are, your reality can't stay the same. If you could be satisfied with your imagination just for a while without comparing it to reality, you would be surprised how fast change can happen.

Meet up with him vibrationally. Think about what you'd like to do with him and set a date. Go there in your imagination on that date, feel the good feelings of love, fun, joy, whatever. When you wake up the next day, remember how great the date was and go there again with your feelings. Don't think about reality just for a while.