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I know its my own vibration - but I honestly can't keep up with my guy.ย
On minute he is lovely, next minute he is being horrible.
Last night he was being nice and telling me not to worry about things, this morning I was just saying I was worried about my family and he just said he is not too interested because I am drama ย
I can't keep up with his mood swings. This is when I feel like giving up and saying he doesn't bloody deserve me anyway. He is making it very difficult to think positive of him. Times like this I think what is the point when he is so mean to me sometimes. Its not even me he just doesn't care about anyone since joining the army he has become so cold.ย
I no longer know what to do anymore, I don't want to give up because I love him and i know this isnt his true self, I have seen his true self. Fuuuuuck what the hell is going on at the moment!!! ย
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You visualise him being nice and feel it for a while, then you look at reality and feel bad about it. That's exactly what you get back. A mixed bag of behaviour. This poor guy can't be anything else than inconsistent.
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I need to stop focusing on the reality with him, its frustrating me so much because I swear I don't even realise I'm doing it. This is obviously where my blocks would come in. Who would say that though, not even a friend would be that nasty "I'm really not interested." Jesus I don't even recognise him anymore.ย
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Meg2222 wrote:
Who would say that though, not even a friend would be that nasty "I'm really not interested." Jesus I don't even recognise him anymore.ย
And here you are, focusing on your reality..
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Okay so thank you for pointing that out... I obviously don't know how to focus on my own reality.
How do I do this?! Some advice would be nice ย
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big_blue wrote:
Meg2222 wrote:
Who would say that though, not even a friend would be that nasty "I'm really not interested." Jesus I don't even recognise him anymore.ย
And here you are, focusing on your reality..
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Lol..that's exactly what I wanted to say.
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Meg2222 wrote:
Okay so thank you for pointing that out... I obviously don't know how to focus on my own reality.
How do I do this?! Some advice would be nice ย
It's simple. Approximately all of your thoughts are about your reality. Just stop ALL of this thoughts. You don't need 95% of them. Start to think new thoughts that are completely unrelated to your reality. It will feel strange in the beginning, but that's normal.
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Meg2222 wrote:
Okay so thank you for pointing that out... I obviously don't know how to focus on my own reality.
How do I do this?! Some advice would be nice ย
Ignoring reality can be tough.. trust me, I still struggle with it. But it really comes down to accepting the fact that what is in front of you right now is just a reflection. Live in your head. In the reality that you truly want, what is it like? Is he complimenting you every morning? How does that make you feel? Does he say, 'I love you' every night? Relish in that NOW.
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Thank you both so much, Glad I have people to tell me where I am going wrong as well! It's the only way we learn, Thank you again. I am gonna try this, hopefully it will become natural after a while. xx
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Meg2222 wrote:
Thank you both so much, Glad I have people to tell me where I am going wrong as well! It's the only way we learn, Thank you again. I am gonna try this, hopefully it will become natural after a while. xx
As big blue said, it isn't easy. So be patient with yourself. It won't work immediately all day every day, but if you can remind yourself regularly, your thought processes will change over time.