1 - Meg2222
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Need your help.... brutal honesty!!!!
Right,
I am able to attract my love, but only in a sexual way. This has been going on for a while now that he just wants a sexual relationship. No strings attached. Blah blah blah. I didn't believe him at first and felt he still loved me. But I feel like he is drummed it in my head so much it's stuck.
So I want brutal honesty. HOW can I I change this! Why am I giving off this energy to just attract him sexually?! What do I need to sort out to change the situation. I know it's me! I just need help figuring out what the hell I need to change in order for his actions to change!
Please help! I'm sick of this cycle and want it to change! Brutal honesty welcome so go right ahead! Thank you!
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Re: Need your help.... brutal honesty!!!!
My theory would be that you have a belief that it's easier to attract men for sexual stuff than for a relationship. So, when you first attracted him back it was easier for you to believe that he would come back in that way. After that, you give all your attention to What Is and therefore you are stuck in it.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
- Meg2222
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Re: Need your help.... brutal honesty!!!!
So how can I change that belief?? I really want to be able to change that belief 
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Re: Need your help.... brutal honesty!!!!
Meg2222 wrote:
So how can I change that belief?? I really want to be able to change that belief
As Abe say, a belief is just a thought you keep thinking. So start to think different thoughts until the last one feels less and less real.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Re: Need your help.... brutal honesty!!!!
Okay, it's quite difficult to change the beliefs but I will try my hardest.
I think it is all working because he does contact me, even if it is just for that right now, I keep telling myself that he is in love with me and that i can have a committed relationship. Also I keep saying how grateful I am for the contact and that he contacts me!!
Thanks Sanshi, You are really wise and you always help me 
Much love xxxx
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Thread Starter- Sanshi
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No one ever said that it will be easy. 
But don't try hard. Trying hard is never the way. Be easy about it.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Okay thank you xxx
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Thread Starter- zionthecomedian
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Re: Need your help.... brutal honesty!!!!
I had the same thought when I first attracted my guy but then I shifted my thought. Sure, guys have needs but the fact he came to you is because he must have missed you for other reasons too. If he wanted a sexual relationship it'd be quicker to find someone new don't you think? Just go to a club and sleep around?
Anyways I didn't give in, I stood my ground and told him straight, 'I know you missed me and I missed you too but sex was last on my list.' That gave him time to think. I truly believe he loves me. I know he does, why else would you come back. I have faith he sees past the sexual side slowly. I have faith he loves me for me but he's too scared to admit it right now.
Shift your thinking and think about the reasons you love yourself for. If you love yourself for those reasons I'm sure he feels the same too, keep thinking and build a happier ending for yourself. One that you want, like I am trying to right now
Don't get discouraged.
I thank the universe for everything.
- Meg2222
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Thank you so much! I really appreciate it! I will continue to have faith, you are so right it would be easier for them to just find someone new! xxx
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Thread Starter- Ladyoflight
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I had the same thought when I first attracted my guy but then I shifted my thought. Sure, guys have needs but the fact he came to you is because he must have missed you for other reasons too. If he wanted a sexual relationship it'd be quicker to find someone new don't you think? Just go to a club and sleep around?
Anyways I didn't give in, I stood my ground and told him straight, 'I know you missed me and I missed you too but sex was last on my list.' That gave him time to think. I truly believe he loves me. I know he does, why else would you come back. I have faith he sees past the sexual side slowly. I have faith he loves me for me but he's too scared to admit it right now.
Shift your thinking and think about the reasons you love yourself for. If you love yourself for those reasons I'm sure he feels the same too, keep thinking and build a happier ending for yourself. One that you want, like I am trying to right now
Don't get discouraged.
I agree with this post. ALSO!!!!! you were successful at attracting back your ex which is amazing!!! so if you can do that you can change the way things are between you two! a simple shift is all it takes.
Anything and everything is possible!
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