It's OK to be where you are.  Make peace with the fact that you feel bad and that things can get better.  There's nothing to be scared of.  Instead of focussing on that,  try to focus on the moment NOW.  Because you can change that. Lots of people have given you lots of advice and processes and you aren't trying any of it. You can't jump from scared/upset to suddenly trying to throw love towards your guy in visualisations to make him come back. It won't ever work that way. You first need to try to do some of the things that give you a sense of peace, and work at building your self love, and SELF WORTH. Being scared about a person rejecting you means that you have a very low opinion of yourself. You must work on that. Use the processes I sent you. Because until you can feel genuinely good about yourself, your energy will not be able to attract others that feel good about you. It's that simple.

You CAN FOCUS IN IT. You're just choosing to tell a story that you can't. And that's fine. But make peace with where you are and be glad that you know why you are bringing all theses unwanted experiences upon yourself. You definitely can control your thoughts. You're no different to anybody else. It's just a choice you make. Or not. You need to learn to live happily in your own company, and not NEED or be SCARED about what someone else is doing. And again, you do that by working your way through the processes and discovering some self-worth.

My dear @Hisoneandonly, if you must cry and feel badly about things, then do so until you feel better. I know how this feels exactly. BUT ALSO KNOW that things will get better and better as days pass by, and when it gets better and better, you can focus on raising your vibrations and positive visualization. 

Check out Veronica's videos on YouTube. She covers all the topics that you need to know to bring yourself to a point of attracting your love back to you. Ignore the reality and don't think about the when and how. Just focus on the goal.

When I wanted to meet my love again after almost two months of no contact and 7 months of not seeing each other, I had to muster enough faith and courage to do so through positive visualization. We were in different continents at that time (last month) but because I focused on visualizing us meeting (first I was specific about the where and the when and eventually let go of the when and where), the universe arranged the circumstances around us so we could meet.

I took a 22-hour flight to SF. but we were still 6 hours apart by air travel because he lives in the Midwest and I was in the West Coast. I also had a limited stay in the U.S. so that was another challenge. But I played the vision of us meeting in my mind over and over again. What happened was magic. He flew to LA for business and that put us on the same timezone, with flight time reduced to 45 minutes. The universe also made sure we'd meet again exactly a year since we first met. Instead of taking a flight, I drove to LA from SF. Along the way I met amazing people. I also got the hotel I wanted to stay in for 60% off the regular price because of my rewards credit. 

The meeting was exactly as I imagined it to be: full of love, full of desire, us together again. 

So please focus on the goal and don't worry about the whys and the hows. Relax and allow things to happen. 

I agree with @Cherished that you shouldn't even share any negative things that you experience because at this point, they don't matter. 

 

Last edited by Vera (10/09/2015 11:33 pm)

Vera wrote:

My dear @Hisoneandonly, if you must cry and feel badly about things, then do so until you feel better. I know how this feels exactly. BUT ALSO KNOW that things will get better and better as days pass by, and when it gets better and better, you can focus on raising your vibrations and positive visualization. 

Check out Veronica's videos on YouTube. She covers all the topics that you need to know to bring yourself to a point of attracting your love back to you. Ignore the reality and don't think about the when and how. Just focus on the goal.

When I wanted to meet my love again after almost two months of no contact and 7 months of not seeing each other, I had to muster enough faith and courage to do so through positive visualization. We were in different continents at that time (last month) but because I focused on visualizing us meeting (first I was specific about the where and the when and eventually let go of the when and where), the universe arranged the circumstances around us so we could meet.

I took a 22-hour flight to SF. but we were still 6 hours apart by air travel because he lives in the Midwest and I was in the West Coast. I also had a limited stay in the U.S. so that was another challenge. But I played the vision of us meeting in my mind over and over again. What happened was magic. He flew to LA for business and that put us on the same timezone, with flight time reduced to 45 minutes. The universe also made sure we'd meet again exactly a year since we first met. Instead of taking a flight, I drove to LA from SF. Along the way I met amazing people. I also got the hotel I wanted to stay in for 60% off the regular price because of my rewards credit. 

The meeting was exactly as I imagined it to be: full of love, full of desire, us together again. 

So please focus on the goal and don't worry about the whys and the hows. Relax and allow things to happen. 

I agree with @Cherished that you shouldn't even share any negative things that you experience because at this point, they don't matter. 

 

Hi vera, I really hope that I can hug you right now! :* Thankyou so much. Yes, I let myself cry a bit this morning, then I feel neutral, I don't feel happy or sad. When bad thoughts come, I just let it in. I accept but I don't want it to happen. Can I read your story? It might inspire me! Can I know what did you do in the first place to get him back? Did NC let you guys grow further or make your feelings for him fade? What would you do to ignore bad thoughts and replace with your desire?
 

Right! Accepting things as they are puts you in a neutral state..  In fact, a "zero state" where there is no resistance is great for manifesting! Now use your little bits of relief as a sign that already you are manifesting better thoughts. It's really good news!

Yes,  of course it will!  Just keep reaching for those kinds of thoughts.  Empower yourself. Hold a nice thought for just 16 seconds, without contradicting it and LOA will match it with another thought the same! Anyone can think something good for 16 seconds! 😘