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No feelings??
Hi, I'm new here and I wanted to ask few questions that have been troubling me. This is going to be a long post but I hope you could help me. So after a really hard breakup, I met this amazing guy in July. And the morning after the first time, we slept together (just cuddling no sex) I kind of got this weird feeling like we were meant to be. I've dated a lot of guys to know the difference between love, crush, and just attraction. I know what a meaningless sex and meaningful sex is. So when I woke up (we still had our clothes on, which surprised me because not a lot of guys I know would be that respectful to a drunk lady) he was hugging me so tight yet it was so comfortable and he was really warm. We stayed there for an hour just holding our hands and hugging, no talking at all. At that moment I wish I could've just stayed there like that forever. And we started hanging out, went on dates, and did a lot of stuff together. However, our little happiness only lasted for a month. We have a seven years gap, so apparently his friends thought it was weird and wrong for him to go after me. I told him I really like him a lot but I'll respect his decision. We decided not to see each other but did I respect his decision? NOO. I could feel that he likes me a lot too because of his behaviour and we did see each other few times. We had a great time but he told me nothing changed. Yet I couldn't just give up on him. So I started using LOA on this and I did attract him 2 times. The first time I imagined him in a maroon t-shirt because he looks really good in it, and when he came over he had a white sweater but when he took his sweater off he had his maroon t-shirt inside. The next thing was I wanted to spend my birthday with him. Which he did spend my birthday with me I was super happy, it was in October. However both of these times were one night thing, I want a relationship with him. Sadly he had to move to a different city in few weeks and now he's gone. So embarrassing I'm not a teenager anymore but I've annoyed him till the point we're not friends on any social media and we don't talk anymore. I'm not blocked, still when I send friend requests he doesn't add me.
1. So my first question is you think I can still get him back? Well LOA does say I can get everything I want right? But I feel hopeless after everything.
2. Next question is can I specifically ask that if I do get him back I want him to be in love with me as much as I am? Because I don't want it to be a one side thing like I'm the only one who is in love. I guess I want him to go after me because I heard he went after his last gf like crazy. So if she can get him to do it I can too right?
3. So I started the 25 day challenge 8 days ago, but the weird thing is I don't feel anything. No love no happiness no sadness or depression, just nothing. I don't feel that tingling happiness I felt when I used to think about him. I don't know if I should want him anymore. Does this happen to anyone? At first, I thought it was because I don't like him anymore, but when I saw his picture the other day, and my heart was beating so fast so I think I still want him. But why am I not excited anymore? I feel like I'm giving up... I don't know 
4. When I visualize us together I can't remember his face. I can visualize us sleeping together and waking up together but I always get scared that what if it's only for one night? I want a beautiful loving respectful relationship
5. Even though I want to date him and be his gf, I'm scared to be his girlfriend. I'm scared that it won't last long or we won't be happy. What do you guys visualize when you think about being with your loved one?
It's weird because with everything else in my life I'm pretty good at manifestations and being positive. I manifest material objects pretty easily, but when it comes to him it's just so damn hard. You know it's kind of ironic because when we first started hanging out I wanted it to be hard because I thought it would be worth it, now I'm just so tired and hopeless about this situation.
Sorry for the long post. I hope you guys can help with this issue. Thank you.
- Alycat1110
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Re: No feelings??
1. If you truly desire something you will always have it. That's how LOA works. So my first piece of advise is to gather and learn everything you can about LOA. It is a lifestyle change. It is a change of the way you think, act, react. Everything is so much better when you believe in yourself and live your life with self love and confidence. You will become aligned with what you desire and it will be yours. But there is so much work around doing that. So educate yourself first! Abraham, Neville, This forum, Blogs and websites.
2. You have the power to rewrite any relationship, any job, anything with the power of LOA. However, when you are asking for something you have to be very specific with what it is that you desire. And from a place of I want a relationship with a person that loves me exactly how much I love him, it is possible but that isn't just what you want right? You want a fulfilling, loving, passionate relationship with ____ who only has eyes for you, who takes you on dates and comes to the city you live in just to see you for the weekend. See the difference? If you put thoughts and feelings into something then that is what will manifest. Try writing down your goal beginning with " I am so grateful I now have the most amazing and loving relationship with my boyfriend ______" Continue from there being specific. With LOA it teaches different techniques like visualization, RS, scripting, using a journal, etc. Find what you connect best with and then practice it everyday.
3. For me I explained the fact that I couldn't feel him anymore in my heart because I was so blocked. I was unable to let go, move on and had so much resistance. I changed this by thinking of things I have in this reality that I love. My mom, sister, dog whatever. Then I practiced visualizing around my goal and slowly it came to be. See how the picture made you so excited? look at that picture, put on some meditation music and then close your eyes and visualize. Veronica gives some really great examples of different and effective visualization examples. I understand that you feel like you should be excited, but LOA is all about getting to a place where you feel normal and aligned with your goal. That being said, no one can tell you if you want your desire or not. In my opinion you do want that or else you wouldn't be on this forum, reading Veronica's books or asking this very question.
4. see #3
5. If you are correctly practicing LOA, fear isn't something that you can't change. So you have to start by learning LOA in order to manifest this relationship positively because right now you are making it a "big" manifestation as opposed to just a normal manifestation like if you wanted a great seat on the bus or for a free coffee. Change your perception, change your circumstance. The two go hand in hand. And since you have said you have manifested things easily, don't put as much weight on this one. It's all the same. It might just take longer because you are not aligned with your true self.
I hope this helps. Make yourself happy first and foremost!
- Kittyinlove
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Re: No feelings??
Thank you so much for your reply. It helped me a lot.
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