The first bit of advice I can give you is forget what has happened, if you can't Neville Goddard's revision is an absolute godsend for these situations, give that situation a better ending. As Happygirl97 says Veronica has great videos when it comes to reality here's one on how to ignore the current reality  and here's another aboutwaiting on changes in your current reality. 

This process is about you and the end goal should be the relationship with your specific person, not the person themselves. You have to do things to make you happy! Do not ask how it's possible, don't question when it;s happening, just set your intention and focus on the end result while working on you. There is absolutely no reason you can't manifest what you desire, you are the creator of your own reality. Change is always happening it's just not always visible. Think of it like grass growing, that doesn't strain itself, it just flows into being. 

These aren't mandatory but can be good for your desire, if you choose to do these make sure you do it because they bring you joy. There's scripting, visualisation, affirmations and any more ways to get into alignment. This is all about you, set your intention and go off knowing that it's already yours. You create your reality, you even manifested me giving you this reply. You've never even met me before, that's how powerful you are!

newtoloa wrote:

thank you Happygirl97 and Staceylouuu91x, I have been watching veronica's video's and have been trying to visualise everyday, but then when my friends ask me how things are with him, i go backwards in remembering what happened between me and him and then it just gets me down. Do you know anything i can do to stop these negative feelings coming when i am talking to my friends? Also we have the same friends so it makes it more hard to think positive constantly. Thank you Staceylouuu91x I will watch those video's and hopefully they will help! do you know of any affirmations which i could use for this purpose? have you been successfull in attracting your ex back with loa?

I have attracted my guy back beforehand, then got worried he'd leave me again so that's my situation as it stands right now. The great news is that's just the product of my old thoughts and they can be undone once I'm able to get back into the place I was before. When my friends would bring up my exes they were usually projecting my fears, so I told them I didn't want to talk about it, thanked them for their concern and changed my thoughts about them. They don't bring them up unless I do.  This site has some good self-love affirmations. It's important you focus on the goal as the relationship with the person and not the person itself. Affirmations like " ____ is my boyfriend/girlfriend/partner/wife/husband" and  "_____ loves me" help me. Alter them to suit you. Also, referring to them as your ex only validates that. The person is with you now, you shape your reality so it has to manifest this way.