Sort of - but you have to actually believe what you're telling yourself and what you're thinking.

If you sit there and just repeat words/phrases to yourself without truly owning them and feeling them and believing them, then they are just empty words/phrases.

The good news is that the more you think something, and the more you own it, then the more it forms and builds your belief.

The more you believe something, the more you actually embody it.  And the more you embody something, the more you draw it to yourself.

But the best advice for any of this is what others have said before me - because it's true - it's to work on oneself first.  To get to the bottom of why you have doubts, fears, don't truly believe you can have/exist in the reality you prefer.  

And to do this, in my opinion, one needs to separate themselves and the digging for the root cause away from having anything to do with an ex or specific person, etc. The same would be true if we were talking about you really wanting a particular job.

One needs to feel good about oneself, feel empowered, and confident and fulfilled and good about themselves and their existence - ASIDE FROM EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE ELSE.

If you feel good and awesome and empowered and confident and worthy and deserving of life, then all else will fall into line. You will naturally attract it to you with little to no effort.

What has worked for me is really sitting down with myself and working on my identity.  Who am I?  What qualities do I have?  What does my ideal life look like?  Who do I want to be?  And am I that person?  What are all the things I want for myself?  As if I am writing myself as a character in a story...which, after all, I am! ;)

Hope this is helpful.

Great work!

Yes, it can be easy to remove the block.

The key lies in exactly what you just did - identifying what about yourself is causing you to perceive the situation as difficult or perceiving yourself as unworthy.

Once you begin to understand the patterns of your own identity, the old stories and patterns and expectations you've subconsciously set up for yourself, you become empowered to tear down those walls and let go of the baggage that doesn't serve you.

Who cares that you/if you never got back together with an ex before - it has no relevance - it's just a random fact.

Think about it this way - if you had kept getting back together with past exes - you'd only ever be with them! Lol

Everything starts with self and self identification - ask yourself who you are and what you beleive and what your expectations are and what your beliefs and your story are

Be really honest with yourself - dig deep

You alone hold the key and the answers to all the questions in your life and to achieving all your goals and dreams and desires

Think of your life path as having a GPS program - that you yourself set - change the destination and force that annoying GPS voice to say "rerouting" over and over again and keep driving!!!

You're in charge! You program the GPS and you're the one driving!!!

Keep going - you got this!!!

😊you can do this!  And you will! Everyone can 😊
And yes - as far as I'm concerned, please feel free to message me.

I may not always have the answers, and of course whatever I say is just my opinion drawn from my own experiences, but I'm always happy to lend an ear (erh, in this case eye!) and assist if I can. 😊

Great advices 

Sanshi wrote:

InLakEsch wrote:

. I had done the work I needed, but she isn't. She needs to do work on herself.

So basically you are saying that there is something within your reality you don't have control over and you have to wait for it? Does that feel good to you?
 

No it does not. Whenever I try to think ita happening now I get anxiety of when it will happen. Reality is too loud for me. I don't know how to silence it. I've tried