See my answer to you on the other thread.

I can't say for sure - butnin my own opinion and experience, if I am truly in alignment and in the vortex and feeling at peace and in line with my true inner being and self, I am not thinking, seeing or imagining stuff that doesn't serve me.

For me personally, if I am thinking about and imagining things that are not in direct line with what I want and are not my preferred reality, then I am not actually really aligned.

Because if I were, I would be experiencing only joy in my thoughts and images and I wouldn't let in or be able to let in anything that isn't in line with my desire.

Hope this makes sense and hope this answers/addresses your question.

Yea I get what you're saying. When I think about it I never see them together unless I'm thinking about it. What advice do you have? I'm going to get another opportunity with her because I know I'll love her just as unconditionally as I love herself and it gives me good feelings. Then there's the whole other guy thing which just seeps in. I tell myself it's not real because it's a reflection of past thoughts. Though it still gets me. Do you have any affirmations or anything to help?

Alright. Today was kinda hard to ignore reality is all. I just have to keep affirming and pushing the thought of (won't even type it) out of my head. I just want to give you all a heartfelt thank you you've helped me along this journey to finding my self love again. I'm so happy and in love with my girl

Just remember we always have unlimited chances. That's what keeps me sometimes. That and y favorite affirmation. I always stay calm and in control of myself in any situation and in all circumstances.

I'm big on analogies because they help break things down for me in tangible ways so maybe this will help:

it's like if you're going on a trip to a tropical island and you're super excited and looking forward to it - you bought your ticket, you've packed your bags with all the gear you need - bathing suits and sun screen and flip flops, and you're headed to the airport - what are you thinking?

Are you thinking about how excited you are to walk in the sand and dip your feet in the ocean?  Can you smell the ocean and the beach and the coconuts and the sun tan lotion?  Can you taste that frozen pina coloda?

Or are you thinking - man, what if I get stuck next to someone I don't like on the plane?  What if the plane is delayed?  What if the plane crashes?  

Can you see how you can't really "visualize" or exist in two states of being/thought at the same time?  You're either focused on feeling excited (or good, or neutral - you don't have to be in a state of super excitement all the time - that would be impractical) or you're focused on a state of fear, doubt, worry.

By putting your focus and attention on either scenario, you are sure to produce and experience things in line with either.  

Sort of like:“Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” Henry Ford

Whatever you assume to be true, whatever feeling you assume, whatever thought pattern you assume, you are right - because it is your assumption and it's where your focus is.  Where your focus is is what your experience will be.

Here's a good, helpful quote:

“Much more surprising things can happen to anyone who, when a disagreeable or discouraged thought comes into his mind, just has the sense to remember in time and push it out by putting in an agreeable, determinedly courageous one. Two things cannot be in one place.” Frances Hodgson Burnett, The Secret Garden

 

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