Your feelings are telling you, if your thoughts are in alignment with your higher truth or not. When you feel bad in any way, it means your thoughts aren't beneficial and you attract what you don't want. You only got into that argument, because you weren't paying attention to how you felt. You are still very focused on what is. Take the time off as an opportunity to work through your thoughts and feelings.

Meg2222 wrote:

Thank you, how can I start to focus more on my desired outcome instead of focusing on what is happening right now? 
It's not just him I think my job is getting me down so I am starting to look for another one, and I am feeling a bit sad that its a possibility I wont be spending Christmas with him. I mean I understand that it is what it is and only my thoughts and feelings can change that, but it does get harder over Christmas time. 
He comes home soon so I am getting nervous about that. Visualising makes me feel good and happy. 

Just wondering how i can shift my thoughts to positive and not focus on the past anymore and see him in a bad light because of my core beliefs?

Thanks xxxx

You can shift your thoughts by choosing to only focus on the good memories that you have with him. When you look at a picture do you feel fear or just love and comfort? If you are feeling fear then you know you have to shift your thoughts. By staying in your current reality then there is no way that you will ever manifest what your true desire is. 
Visualization really helps me, but so does just focusing on myself. Getting out in nature, being with my friends and people that I know love me really helps. Yes Christmas is coming, so believe and know that there will be some contact. Once you get to a place of knowing there is nothing stopping your manifestation.Keep visualizing and and FEELING good. Put on some music and journal, script, RS. Those really make me feel connected with my Love. I also find that if my mind is racing with doubt and fear I crawl into bed, put on a funny movie and fall asleep. Abraham says that dong this quiets the mind and also you wake up refreshed. Also, go general with affirmations and I am statements those bring up your vibration too! 

I also notice that you said this: "Just wondering how i can shift my thoughts to positive and not focus on the past anymore and see him in a bad light because of my core beliefs?" Do you really deep down believe in the core of your heart that his is a bad person or is that the story you gave him. Take responsibility for your actions in the relationship. People are mirrors so whatever it is that you thought or felt directly manifested in your Love saying these things to you. 

Meg2222 wrote:

Thank you, how can I start to focus more on my desired outcome instead of focusing on what is happening right now? 
It's not just him I think my job is getting me down so I am starting to look for another one, and I am feeling a bit sad that its a possibility I wont be spending Christmas with him. I mean I understand that it is what it is and only my thoughts and feelings can change that, but it does get harder over Christmas time. 
He comes home soon so I am getting nervous about that. Visualising makes me feel good and happy. 

Just wondering how i can shift my thoughts to positive and not focus on the past anymore and see him in a bad light because of my core beliefs?

Thanks xxxx

It's a choice you have to make. In the beginning, it's hard, because the old thoughts/ways of thinking are so practiced that they pop up automatically. It feels as if you had no control. But you have to put in the effort to not take the comfortable route, but go new ways, think new thoughts. You have to train a new muscle and that requires that you put some energy in. It's mostly a matter of time and practice. You can't be perfect with it within a day, but you will see progress in the next months, if you are consistent.

I know that it's not so easy, but I would try to forget Christmas. There are many others coming up. Don't put yourself under pressure for that. I know how it feels. I had my birthday, our anniversary and Christmas within two weeks last year, but it only holds you back to set a time limit.

You could choose to just stop believing in the past, because you can't see it. The moment you think about the past, you make it the present, so it really only exists in this present moment. You can also use Nevilles revision technique and just imagine a new past until you believe in it, if that makes you feel better.

Meg2222 wrote:

Thank you so so much, that has really helped. Most of the time I am ok, its just some days I really find it hard to block out the negative thoughts. This time of us not speaking has helped me get back into alignment as well. Its nice to have a break. Its weird I know we are meant to be but I always fear someone else will come along and ruin. I know the reason we broke up was because of my thoughts that pushed him away. I have been working so hard to over come my insecurities and fears for the sake of my own happiness as well!

Thank you for your wise words xxxx

 LOA isn't about feeling great 100% of the time. You just have to be a place where you are happy. We are not going to have great days 100%. For example, I am really tired today and it is bringing down my vibration. But what I do know is that I am tired, it doesn't mean I am not getting my Love back or whatever negative thoughts that can come up. Its the different between knowing and allowing your thoughts to rule your life. A lot of the time we think only in our minds instead of connected good thoughts we think and feel them in our heart. If you are meant to be then you are. No one can tell you anything different. But you have to stop worrying so much. Stop focusing on your current reality unless you're thinking they are here with you in this reality which is a place of acting as if. Whatever you put your feelings into, I'm talking about the feeling of knowing and the feeling of love and the feeling of just being together that is when your manifestations will come to be. 

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AceWay123 wrote:

When we are negative, we attract more negative thoughts, but they won't create unless YOU allow them to create if you take actions from negative beliefs.

In my experience, that's not true. Vibration plays out independent of if you want it to play out or not and independent of you taking action. People who are unaware of LoA also create their experience and they don't set intentions in the form LoA people do. And it happens so often to me that something manifests without me doing an action. Of course, when someone is at the door, I open it. When I get an email, I reply, but I think that's not the kind of action you mean. The guy in front of my door or the email comes without me doing anything but thinking.