Hopeful one wrote:

Ayutsu wrote:

Ugh. I was feeling so good and then I went and looked up his fb from another account. He's locked it right down, all his public wall posts are gone and photos are private.

After we broke up in Sept, a girl started calling him her bf. They last saw each a year ago. She lives in another country. When I asked him about it last week, he claimed it was meaningless. Now I'm worried. There's a lot of stuff on her wall between them and although he'd only see her once a year, there is the possibility of arranged marriage.

Also, I'm worried that he sees me as a stalker? I maybe check his profile once a week, if that. Is he scared of me? That really hurts. I'm not crazy. All I've done was try to get him to communicate with me instead of lying about his hot/cold behaviour. I've never asked anything huge from him. I can't believe he's locking me out, when I did what he asked (walked away, no contact).

Now, this is my opinion, and as I hate to say, I am speaking from experience.  I constantly worried that my man would leave me and find someone new, and he did.  To me that is LOA working in a way that you definitely do not to work.  I did the same thing, stalking from another FB account.  My advice deactivate FB for a while.  It can be your worst enemy.  It made me become crazy from worrying all the time.  I can definitely say that was the best thing I have ever did.  I have a better quality of life now so to speak.  You cannot worry about something that you cannot see!

Very true. Deactivating my FB account was the best thing for me. I have a phone if anyone needs to get in touch. If it doesn't make you feel good stay away from it.
 

I would also say it is a good sign. It may seem confusing but like the others already mentioned he might be trying to resist the feelings due to your RS session(s). 
It is working for you! He WILL reach out to you.
 

Some people block others so that they themselves stop peeping....I did that, after my first day of breaking off all I did that was block him from my accounts and also de activated my accounts.....this is a HUGE step but u have to have that ONE FEELING that its ENOUGH!!!  

 last 6 months only once I activated my account and checked his and believe me I was down TO 0000000....Totally broken and shattered...and hence I am back to no social netwoking///// Try being off FB for a while till u are in a condition that his updates dosnt affect u in a negetive way////also somone blocking u dosnt mean they dont think about you....I blocked him and thinking about him all the time lolzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

rosetinted wrote:

Jupitaria wrote:

Something similar happened to me last week with my guy...I posted a thread about it. I was really down and devastated, but people on here really helped cheering me up. Now, a week later, I found a way to put things into perspective.

When you look at it rationally, blocking someone is a pretty strong reaction. Would you block someone you're completely indifferent to? Probably not. The way I see it, only strong feelings towards someone can provoke such a strong reaction. So, what it really comes down to is this: even though blocking someone seems like a very negative thing that's pretty much the opposite of what you'd like to see happen, when someone reacts to you that strongly, they are probably just scared of their feelings for you, which actually is a good thing. And we all know that love can be scary and some people might react to it with fear, trying to run away from it. But nobody can run from their feelings forever, they are gonna catch up with them sooner or later.

So keep doing what you were doing and keep believing! He'll come around sooner or later...

EXACTLY my situation and exactly what I've been realising lately! ❤️ Strong feelings can be scary for some.

Why are strong feelings for some scary??
 

Hopeful one wrote:

Ayutsu wrote:

My ex. So we are apart due to an odd reason which I'll vaguely put as fear of intimacy. Anyway, I promised I'd stop pursuing it and I let him go. No contact. I have been doing rs. Mainly the lanie method but occasionally the Wendi mp3. Today I noticed he's blocked my personal account on various social media accounts. Now, He knows I can still see his stuff from my biz accounts and I could contact him if I wanted. So why block me? The only reason I would block someone who wasn't contacting me would be to prevent myself from stalking their accounts, which I've done before when I had trouble getting over someone. Thoughts?

Okay, I have to ask.  What is the Wendi mp3.  I have done a few Lanie guided meditations, but haven't had much luck.  Any tips?

Don't tell yourself or think that you aren't having much luck.  Tip: Just because there aren't any signs doesn't mean it isn't working. It always is.