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Feeling Hopeless
I've been watching Veronica's videos for a while and they have helped me a great deal. And reading the success stories have too. I do visualizations of a reconciliation with the man I love almost every day. But I can't help but feel like things are hopeless sometimes. This is one of those days.
I'm not going to get into details because it would make the message too long. This is my first message one this board, so I don't want it to be a novel. I also don't want to rehash everything I could because it's painful. Suffice it to say. we separated after 7 years. We've been separated for almost 2. We're in regular contact, but I've not seen him in over a year.
I know most people would say I should forget him, move on. I had a therapist basically tell me I was a fool for continuing to try. And sometimes I really want to give up. But something inside of me won't let me do it. He's the love of my life. I have a strong desire to be there for him, take care of him, and make him happy (yeah, I know, you can't make another person happy, it has to come from within...but I hope you all get what I'm saying here).
I don't know what else to say....after all this time, I feel like it's hopeless. And that breaks my heart even more than being away from him does. I just wanted to vent.
Thank you for reading.
- Alycat1110
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Re: Feeling Hopeless
I would stop and reread what you just wrote. Its pretty negative. But that also doesn't mean that you can't change something negative and turn it into something positive. That is what so great about LOA. I would encourage you to start from the beginning and really get clear on your intentions first. Do you really want this guy back or are you holding on for fear that you cannot find someone else. If you do want him back and that voice inside of your heart is 100% sure then there is your starting point. I would also encourage you to work on yourself as well. Are there things that you would want to do that you weren't able to accomplish when you were with your love or were too consumed with thoughts about him? Get those things done one by one. Even if it is to wake up and commit to taking a nature walk for ten minutes every day. That is your time and it will fill you up! Also, I really like to take one afternoon and do something really special for myself. That could be anything. I have a list of 10 things that make ME happy. I pick something and then do it. I also recommend writing your goal down on paper. Be really specific about it. For example, I am so grateful that _______ and I are now in such an amazing and fulfilling relationship. And then continue on from there. I like to then pull up a visualization meditation music channel on YouTube, close your eyes and visualize this brand new healed relationship. Make sure you feel it in your heart. If you don't at first do not be discouraged it will happen it's just that you have been negative for so long that it takes time to open back up to love. Finally, with time you will let go. You'll find yourself in a place that it really doesn't matter if he comes back because you feel love and acceptance and appreciation for yourself from yourself. It can be scary but once you do it, oh man it is a different feeling. Trust the universe it will deliver exactly what you ask for or 10 times better! See the signs, remain positive and appreciate yourself. Love is the best feeling.
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Re: Feeling Hopeless
You're right, I was feeling extremely negative yesterday. I feel better now. And yes, I know what I want (and it's not about fear that I can't do better). I know you're right about going after other goals and such, which I have been doing all along. Some days are just harder than others and yesterday was one of them. Thanks for the reminder that I need to stay on track!
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Thread Starter- Alycat1110
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Re: Feeling Hopeless
I know what you mean! I think back when My Love and I first went on a break and he was all I could think about. It just takes time.
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