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Hello lovelies!
My name is Sid and this is my first post on any type of LOA form. I came across the law of attraction several months ago and became extremely into it. I actually used it to get over my ex-boyfriend and move on to new. This new guy is everything I could want and more. However I think a vibration change caused us to fall apart a bit. Anyway I will give the entire story.
Back in May my boyfriend at the time dumped me and later I found he cheated on me. I coped with it in many hunhealthy ways. I consumed myself in sadness and shut out many people I cared about. I drank A LOT. When I decided it was time to pick back it, it was because the law of attraction. However, I was wanting to attract someone different.
I started working on myself. Making my appearance more “me”. I became happier and radiated it out to the world. Then I met him. On a perfect summer day I met my new coworker. And we were instantly drawn to one another. One problem, he had a girlfriend. I often confined to him about my ex because, I was still sad. Me and my coworker became closer and closer. Then he confessed his girlfriend was emotionally abusive. She wasn’t very good for him at all and it honestly broke my heart because I really loved this boy. I talked to him everyday and as much as could. I wanted himwith someone better. I wanted him with me but, never exactly said that. Somehow within the next month I made up my mind I wanted him happy. I imagined him happy… but happy with me. He made the decision to leave this girl and instantly jumped to me within the next few weeks of doing this. Of course there were rumors. What else can you expect when someone leaves a relationship and gets into another right away but, it wasn’t like that. We knew it so it never really bothered it. People at work heard we had been seeing each other and put the kibosh on that so we were very low-key. But, We were happy. We had the typical 20000’s romance with going to rock shows and late night car rides. We would view the stars when we were broke and go out to dinner at 2am. We sang along loudly to the radio. He would go with me to the hospital when I needed to get a procedure done, I didn’t even have to ask . No one but my PARENTS have ever done that for me. He made me feel so invincible. I remember the night I tod him I loved hi,. It was cold because it was towards the end of summer and I looked into his brown eyes and said “Justin. I love you.” And his response was “ I know. Because I love you too.” Everything seemed to be in place. Then I moved to school and became depressed. I worry my bad vibes is what caused this all go down.
Now, its three months later and he and I are “on a break” and honestly I want it to be done. However, we both made this decision because im off at university missing not only him but my family tons and hes back home picking up some pieces. Hes recently lost his job at our place of work, he wants his GED, to start a YouTube channel (hes a musician), and to fix his vehicle. How he explained it to me about a week ago is “Sid I do love you but I think I need this time to fix myself. Ive always been in a relationship. Its been that way since fifteen. Im nineteen now and I think I need to get my **** together. I need to get over Lauren (his ex). Its not fair that I still care for her. I need to do this for me and when I have it all together and we still feel the same id be happy to pick this back up. I’m not just saying that either. Ii wont do what Larry did to you. We can still talk and be friends. I just cant do anything romantic right now.” Honestly this is the first time I didn’t cry after a “break” or breakup because, I know hes coming back. I know he’s the one. We don’t text as much as we used to but we talk on the phone for at least 30 mins a day. He’s looking into night school for his GED and it looks like he has another job interview. He also paid for his car so that’s all good. He seems a lot happier.
If you’re still reading this. I guess my question is this: what do I do to manifest him back romantically? Is there anything I can do to speed it up? I mean I am patient and have trust in the universe but, I also miss my boyfriend. I do visualize everyday and practice basic LOA things such as positive and love and gratitude. ALSO! Is it okay that i contact this person first? As i said we still talk on the phone but we alternate who calls first but it seems its me calling him more and him not wanting to get off the phone.
Side note* We really started talking after i bought and wore rose quartz. I lost the braclet then he broke up wih me but, then i found it.
Last edited by dizzy_dreamer_sidney (11/10/2016 9:31 am)
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I just want to say that I think you are off to a really good start choosing your words and that is really important.
If you want to "speed" up your manifestation the best thing to do is focus on yourself and let go. There is such great power in letting go. I started a journal , started a gratitude practice, and although it took a long time just focusing on myself I started to feel better and I settled into the feeling of even though in my current reality I didn't have my love, I still felt as though I did. I was ready to receive. It was this really great calm normal feeling. I love feeling that way.
I would say that you have to change your thoughts surrounding missing him. Act as if you are in a happy relationship with him already. In terms of contacting him I love no contact. I really become aware of my own thoughts and feelings. Maybe visualize and feel him calling you. When you have the urge, Veronica has a great video on manifesting a text. Try that and believe. Being patient is the best thing to do because in the time that you guys are on a break you grow as an individual and find happiness just with yourself. And like you said you're in school so focus on that. Try and FEEL good. Then your manifestation will start showing up. You can only have expectations of yourself because you are the only one who has control of you.
Good luck!
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Alycat is right. Missing isn't the vibration that brings him back. It's a lackful vibration that brings you more lack of him. So you can't speed the process up to stop missing him. You have to stop missing him to speed it up.
I know that most people do that, but in most cases it isn't such a beneficial thing to think and talk about the past. You just told us your whole story with all the aspects you don't want. I know that we are very trained to do it and sometimes, I, too, have a hard time to hold myself back from telling what went wrong today or how that particular thing in my past was, but if you don't like what you want to tell, don't do it. How would you prefer the story to look like? Tell us a new story, think new thoughts. You can't bring him back with your old ones.
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Thank you Alycat and Sanshi for your kind words ! I made a journal of all the fun things Justin and i did this summer and sweet text messages from him. I think i am going to admire it daily and mabey conduct a new one of things i want to do but write them as though it already happened
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