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I have used LOA to attract some great things into my life. However, I am currently battling with a family member. Probably the most important person; my mother. We are two very different people and she is currently very depressed and frankly she is a shell of her old self. I have tried LOA with her many times and even had her attend a 7 week course on Manifesting to try and help her out of her funk. When my parents separated it was hard for all of us but obviously very difficult for her. I sympathise with this. Since she is not herself our issues have gotten so much worse. Now I know how to turn things around or I can for other things. But I know with LOA if it is a relationship that isn't meant to be then it just isn't but it is my mom and I kind of don't really have any choice with this I don't want to not have a relationship with her. Any tips to try and turn it around. We are mirrors of the people we interact with and I don't know if there is anything more that I can do at this point. This also affects my sister who is a very positive person. So at a loss of what to do next...
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I also have a hard time dealing with my mother. I know the theory pretty well, but I'm still not able to implement it with her. For me, it's the biggest challenge ever. But the theory behind it is firstly, love her as she is. Look at all the positive aspects of her. Is she caring? Is she a good cook? Would she do everything for you? Does she spend money for you without ever talking about it again? What do you still like about her?
"But I know with LOA if it is a relationship that isn't meant to be then it just isn't "
Where did you pick up this line? You can better every relationship and you can have every relationship exactly the way you want it to be. Everything else are just limiting beliefs. How do you want the relationship with your mother to be? Focus on that. Focus on how you wish to feel about her, visualise positive interactions with her. It's all about your focus. If you are able to ignore how she is now and focus on the version of her you want to experience, it will be your experience.
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Honestly Sanshi,I don't know what I like or love about her anymore. She just isn't who she used to be and frankly I am old enough to "parent" myself and she says so there isn't anything that she doesn't for me. I definitely do not feel cared for or supported. I am grateful for her putting a roof over our head but then if we don't grovel about it and tell her how ecstatic we are about it she says we are ungrateful. I know this is truly negative but this is the place I am at in this moment. I feel judged, cast to the side and she wonders what planet I live on because I am so positive. What is worse is that I get it from both of my parents because my father feels bad about the seperation and guilty so he takes her side.
Right now all I want to do is not be around her. But when I have children I want them to know her and as I get older I don't know what the relationship is going to be like. I can't imagine a better relationship because from where I stand today, I just don't want it.
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If it's your path of least resistance to walk away and you have the possibility to do it, then do it. I made that my strategy too. However, if you want it to change, you have to change your focus. If you can't find something good in her, make it up or remember things you used to like about her. You don't have to figure that out right now. You are only responsible for your own feelings. Do whatever feels good in the moment and maybe she sees how happy you are and learns by your example.