Scarlet Angel wrote:

InnerGod wrote:

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Believe me, I know exactly how it is! I cried a lot too. I cried talking to her on the phone, we had arguments, I said I was really angry with her, you have no idea of the mess I did. But here I am, I haven't died and guess what? I'm stronger now that all this happened. damn, I saw pics of them together, but at the end, I know I was creating a monster in my mind and that's what you're doing right now. STOP! His behaviour towards you is just a reflection of how you expect him to behave. Just stay cool. Breathe. Take calm and deep breaths, trust me, this helps a lot. When we are hurt, we see a problem much bigger than it really is. Let's trust the Universe, he won't stay with her forever. Forget the other girl, she's just a necessary piece of the puzzle that is arranging his return to you. Just focus on you and him. You can do it. 
 

I love what innergod said in the end .. yeah this is how it should be. Maybe through that relationship he will realise how wonderful you were to him as partner. He will fall in love with you in much deeper sense and value you much more than before. (Already might have started)

Yeah I'm trying to think positively about it. I know I'm so much better than her and I'm sure he knows it too lol. I'll let him have his cake. It's just sad knowing that he has to date someone to try to "move on".

Sanshi wrote:

...It shouldn't be harder. If it is, it's because you give too much attention to your reality. It really doesn't matter what he is doing right now.
Your thinking positively isn't really going to lead you where you want to be, because it still includes What Is. You don't have to get anything positive out of that situation, because you don't have to change the situation. You can create something new, regardless of the situation. Free yourself from what is and focus on what you want. Feel the feelings you would feel, if you were in a relationship with him. Don't waste your powerful, creative thoughts with the other girl (you have created anyway).

Loved it!

InnerGod wrote:

Don't waste time and energy thinking that you're better than her, beacuse if you do that, you'll start to feel the need for comparison. Remember, you don't need to compare yourself to her, she doesn't even exist in the reality you're creating. And you don't need to feel sad that he needs to date someone to try to "move on". Maybe he needs that to see you in a much brighter light. Let him learn his lessons as you learn yours and be grateful for it 

I was reading about someone who knew a friend that wanted to do RS and he was trying to manifest his gf back. The friend was saying how the gf could feel his thoughts and love energy but decided to stay with the guy who she started dating after they broke up. I am just feeling scared of the unknown at the moment. I know it will pass eventually. I am just trying to stay positive and I feel like when I try to I'm doing it wrong lol. 

Sanshi wrote:

laurenjfaz wrote:

InnerGod wrote:

Don't waste time and energy thinking that you're better than her, beacuse if you do that, you'll start to feel the need for comparison. Remember, you don't need to compare yourself to her, she doesn't even exist in the reality you're creating. And you don't need to feel sad that he needs to date someone to try to "move on". Maybe he needs that to see you in a much brighter light. Let him learn his lessons as you learn yours and be grateful for it 

I was reading about someone who knew a friend that wanted to do RS and he was trying to manifest his gf back. The friend was saying how the gf could feel his thoughts and love energy but decided to stay with the guy who she started dating after they broke up. I am just feeling scared of the unknown at the moment. I know it will pass eventually. I am just trying to stay positive and I feel like when I try to I'm doing it wrong lol. 

Don't ever look at others. You don't know their thoughts. They can tell you about how their reality looks like, but they don't always tell you what they have thought in the process, mostly because they aren't aware of it themselves. You read this stories, because you are doubting the process yourself. It's just a reflection of what is in your own consciousness.

Well I was reading success stories as a way for me to gain some more hope and that was one of them.. Not sure how it would be one but anyways, reading success stories makes me feel better about the idea of manifesting my boyfriend back, but its the fear of the unknown that gets to me. In all situations, not just this one. 

InnerGod wrote:

laurenjfaz wrote:

I was reading about someone who knew a friend that wanted to do RS and he was trying to manifest his gf back. The friend was saying how the gf could feel his thoughts and love energy but decided to stay with the guy who she started dating after they broke up. I am just feeling scared of the unknown at the moment. I know it will pass eventually. I am just trying to stay positive and I feel like when I try to I'm doing it wrong lol. 

That friend you told about wasn't focusing on the end result. Instead, he was "trying to get his gf back". See what I mean? You have to think as if you're already have him in your life. RS is just a tool that helps you in that. You're not trying to "convince" your guy to come back to you. Instead, HE IS ALREADY WITH YOU and you do RS as a way to act as if. As if you would do physical seduction moves on your bf on a regular day.

I'd like you to do something: When you go to sleep, imagine you are sleeping with him. Hug him, caress his body in a lovely way, be gentle and a bit erotic. Kiss his neck and say good night to him. Do this EVERY NIGHT AND STAY COOL. Go to sleep feeling his warmth. You don't need to check out if he's receiving your energy. HE IS, TRUST ME. Sleep with him every night. Don't wait to see things happening (that's the wrong way). Instead, ENJOY your moment with him. You and him, sleeping together! Wonderful, isn't it? That's your job, a piece of cake. The Universe is working for you in the dark, behind the scenes. You don't need to see the Universe moving. But it is, no matter what your physical eyes are seeing. 

That is what I have been doing. I have been imagining me kissing him goodnight and good morning. I sometimes pretend I am talking to him while watching a movie or when something funny happens, Ill imagine myself texting him about it. I sleep on one side of the bed (even though we never slept together in the same bed), I leave out a glass of water on the bedside table for him, sometimes I make an extra cup of coffee for him. I visualize once or twice a day for 20-30 minutes. I sleep with a small teddy bear he gave me that I forgot to give back to him lol. I have created a vision board. I even bought a few things for a trip I want us to go on, and I made savings jars for a trip and house for us to buy together. I am trying to feel as if it is already happening, that we are together. Yeah, it's that I don't really see many signs anymore. I used to when we first broke up but that was before LOA. Like for instance, a couple of weeks after he broke up with me, I kept hearing one of "our songs" everywhere I went. I was driving to class one day and I was really upset so I prayed to God that the song would play on the radio before I reached to my school to give me hope that everything will work out between my boyfriend and I, and mind you, this song hasn't played on the radio in months (it's popular, but you rarely hear it anymore). And that song played on the radio right when I turned into school. Those signs are what make me feel hopeful and strong.