Your happiness was for nothing?! Seriously? When you say something like this, it's hard to believe for me that you were really happy. How can happiness ever be for nothing? You can fake a smile for other people and maybe even for yourself, but the universe reacts to your vibration and not to your face.

I can tell you exactly what you did and do wrong and why nothing is happening or at least not what you want to happen:

- you are focused on the lack of what you want and not really on what you want
- you try to fake to be happy in order to get something out of it
- you look at your reality to see proof of LoA working
- you focus on what you don't want
- you take your "reality" way too serious
- you don't really understand the concept behind LoA and that's the reason why you have a hard time applying it properly

I would highly recommend to learn more about LoA.
 

I'm confused too, why you said your happines was for nothing? You don't need to be happy to be with him, you choose to be happy because is good for you, you choose to be happy because you want to be happy, because you enjoy your happines. 

I think you don´t have to give up, but you need to think different, it's hard, I know, but it's necesary, for you, work on you and do it for yourself.

Last edited by Kavik (10/31/2016 4:28 pm)

sara315 wrote:

Thank you Sanshi and Kavik!
You were right, I was faking it. I was happy only because I pretended that he was back. Thats why when he wasn't, it all came crashing down.
I definitely doubt this LOA stuff a lot, although I so want to believe it!!
I will try again without using him as my happiness. But what if I think about him? I tend to either see us back together or tell myself I dont ever want to see him again.
THanks!

I know that words don't teach and you don't even know me, so it won't help so much, but I can guarantee you with strong conviction that this stuff is real! You can have everything and everyone you want, if you are able to firstly understand how this works and secondly if you are able to implement it in your life. It's nothing you can do once to attract something you want. It's a life style. You have to forget everything you have learned and get back to where you were when you were a child. It takes quite a while until we are fully convinced that it's real, but it's worth the time and effort, trust me.

First of all, you have to decide what you want. Do you want to never see him again or be in a relationship with him? I'm sure the universe would find a way to deliver both at the same time to you, but I'm also sure that this isn't what you want. So decide what it is that you really want first. And think carefully. Why do you want him back? Do you love him with all your heart or are you just desperate and need him to make you happy?
The problem is not that you think about him. Of course you can think about him and if you decide that you want a relationship, you even need to think about him. But you have to focus on what you want without feeling the lack of what you want. So when you think "I so like this guy. He is always so cute and I enjoy watching movies with him [...]" whatever...that's the right direction, that's focusing on what you want. But if you feel bad while thinking this thoughts, because in the back of your head, you know that he isn't there yet and that you can't watch movies with him, then you create more of him not being there. It's tricky in the beginning, especially if you don't really understand why you even have to do all this stuff. I think one of the most important parts of this journey is to understand LoA fully. It takes time. Be patient with yourself and make yourself the most important person.

Kavik wrote:

nice advice sanshi, it helps me too

Glad it helped.

Wow!! You guys are amazing!! Thank you so much. And it means a lot to hear this from someone and not just reading in the books. I read the Secrets and it goes against what I feel.
I used to feel that if I want something, it wont ever happened, so I would pretend I didn't want it and it will happen (secretly I was hoping but had to tell myself don't hope!). This is based on the whole "don't have high hopes" or don't expect too much or you will be disappointed. I think that's why it is so difficult for me to understand LOA. But I do want to be control of my life and I do want to be a creator of my reality (according to Abraham Hicks). So if you guys can tell me how you overcome your doubts when you want something and it's not there yet, I would very appreciate it!!
Thanks again, you guys made my day
PS. The art of letting go, what does that mean? Because I constantly think about him, so I don't know how to clear my head, if I think that I can live without him, doesn't that mean the Universe will say Yes you can and so it wont bring him to me? So I'm constantly asking for him... I know I'm really lost and I am reading lots of stuff but it would really help to hear from someone who has done this or went through it before. Thanks again!!!