I'm just going to point this part out if you don't mind. "I try attract he back. 7months..and I know that I do something wrong when he still isnt with me" This is one area you need to work on, talking about how long it's been focuses on lack, I know it's tough but focusing on lack only brings more lack, then focusing on lack again will bring more lack. See the pattern emerging? 

Everything your guy does without you isn't what you should be focusing on. You need to focus on you and the stuff you two do together. Script it, visualise it, focus on you. If going to that bar is bringing you down, avoid it. You're not doing anything bad, you're just investing your energy into the wrong place. No time is only an obstacle if you let it be, you'll be together once you focus your energy into the relationship, not how long you've been apart, what he gets up to, who he talks to etc. 
 

and I give me a challenge I will with him on the Christmas. today is 24th ..two months.I so much desire be with him on Christmas, and celebrate New Year..

Last edited by Laura1234 (10/24/2016 3:31 pm)

I wrote him yesterday..I wanted go out with him and I wanted try on how will his reaction. he wrote that he has no time and that what I need. so I wrote is there nothing..he wrote he has no time because he is working on driving license and some invoices...bla bla.. so Its hurt me and I wrote him it what I want say him when we were out.. I wrote him that Im sure that these things he donts all day and that even if had a time so he dont want go out because he dont have a phase when he want be with me...and when we want be  with someone so there is always time(and we are in the same village and he is home now because he work in different country but now he is home and maybe he is home a longer period and we arent together ) ..and I wrote him that when  he will his phase again when he will want be with me one night again so he havent call me because I will not a time too. and that I dont want one night again where I mean something for him one night and another day Im not nothing again ...that maybe him these "relationship" suits but it hurt me...and he dont wrote nothing for this message.. I had to wrote him because I dont feel good and I fell used that he want go out only night and he said that if he was a home so we should be a relationship but I dont believe when he is home now and we would meet stil and no one night one weekend..... I dont know what I have do .. for me this situation is still worse.. later he write me again because I know attract this but I want attract a relationship so what I have do .. I try every single thing .. maybe now I should to forget him and  live your life and just a believe that he come back.. but it so hard for me ....sometimes he was a very attentive he like me so much, he wanted be with me and he always had a time .but I 've always had fear that he dont think serious with me and that he want just a sex and so he is so attentive etc..and when we had a sex so a 2 weeks later he wasnt attentive he wanted be with friends too and later he said me that he dont feel for a relationship and he want just a friends with benefits.. .so I attract all things that I was afraid... but why is easy attract bad things and our fears and all positive things is so hard? because I believe our fears and doubts...and so now I still attract one night when he want be with me and he said me sweet thing for example that every boy wants to take a great girl like me (ok so why he no?) and that when he was work here so we are together but maybe this words are only words... and he likes a sex with me ..oo "great" but I want a relationship!!!I want the version this person who loves me and want be with me and which had a time for me always..how he had in the past ... I know I still repeat it certainly.. I only need tell it someone. and I want tell it a people who know LOA....

sunny wrote:

Maybe you should go into no contact with him for awhile. Focus on yourself and get your self worth back. You deserve to have a relationship with him. Definitely don't spend nights with him anymore until he's serious with you. Set boundaries and stick to them. Also, don't say things to get reactions from him. Make your desired reality more important than your current reality by focusing on it more.

 

we are not  in contact often..if he is home so he want go out one night..sometimes he wrote me when he was away and he wanted know how I am and  what  I have new etc,  but now two time wrote just when he was home and he wanted go out one night. I wrote him the first one only once yesterday. I never wrote him first, and never invited his out first. he always invite me..but only a evening ..and yes I dont spend nights with him anymore and for that I wrote him this message yesterday that when he will want go out with me one night again so may he dont write me because I will not go anymore if it will only one night again..