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To respond or not to respond??
Greetings! I have been a member of the forum quite a while and I can say that it has helped me tremendously and encouraged me. So today, I finally decide to introduce myself and ask a question to like minded individuals. I was introduced into LOA about a year ago and in that amount of time, my thought process has gone to a deeper, truer, more positive level. I will not go into "retelling my Old story"...
I've learned the negatives of that...but I will start here...My Love and I are not "together" as we were anymore, BUT he still calls and/or texts.. sometimes he'll even come by. Not as much as he used to, of course, but he still does. I really want to retell the old story so you all can know the ins/outs etc. But I choose to speak more positive and believe that what I believe and speak, I will see! We are not new to each other-we found ourselves back together after many years-never would have thought that it would happen, but it did. And I was honestly in awe of that! I never expected that; He's had some serious health challenges etc...and is still dealing with a lot surrounding it -so let's just say, it is indeed a miracle for this to have ever happened as it did.
Long story short, I know and understand that some people - as I've also been in that position before-quite a few times- would love to be in some type of contact with their "love". But I do not desire to be "reduced" in his life to just a friend..after all of this time...all of these years, etc. He is and has always been my first love. I am just conflicted at times-sometimes I feel as if I should ignore his calls or texts when he does make contact so that I do not seem "available". I want him to miss me-miss us-the way that we used to be. I sometimes feel that by allowing that line of communication to be left open, that does not allow him to miss me. I know that he has somethings that he is going through....it is my desire to be "supportive", however, I do not want to be dismissed as being just a friend to him and put into that position. He was my high school love, I do not wish to forever be the one who doesn't get the one that she truly desires. However, I am old enough to not desire to play games in relationships. I feel that with LOA if I set my intention and desires and expect them to come...they will come. I am believing strongly in this simply because 1. I have seen some manifestations of LOA in my life (career, money issues, relationship (this one, lol)- in just this year of knowing and practicing it. 2. I have done all of the wrong things in a relationship (actions / reactions to things in the past) , so I do not want to do the same thing to get the same undesired result. What do you all think??
"I am receiving now. I am receiving all good things in my life NOW."
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Re: To respond or not to respond??
Any thoughts, anyone?? 
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I would say focus on yourself in this. Make yourself the priority. Make your individual life as good as you can - do things you love, pamper yourself, etc. Really know how great of a person you are and how deserving you are of this relationship with him. Think of all the wonderful things you have to offer someone in a relationship. Really get your self worth up there. Continue living the relationship you want with him in your mind, and don't worry about trying to "fix" your current reality. Don't worry about trying to make him miss you, etc. If you value yourself and can find happiness in your life without him, this will naturally make you really attractive to him. But don't do this for him, do it for you, simply because you deserve to be happy and to live an amazing life. Put yourself first and only offer him what you feel you want to give him when it comes to support/communication, etc. If it feels good to send love to him and respond, then do it. If it doesn't, don't. Don't worry about what he thinks and don't do things to try to get a certain response from him. Just work on you and attracting your perfect relationship. Reality is only a reflection of what's going on inside of you.
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Wow, Sunny I needed that exact response that you gave! Thank you so much. I promise I needed that encouraging reminder and every single thing that you said was so So true! I've been doing exactly those things that you mentioned-I almost "slipped" in trying to "fix" and "work on" the situation myself instead of seeing it Worked out-the way that it truly is :-) Yes, I needed that reminder. It feels so "juvenile" to question should you or should you not answer a call or text. This whole message was everything I needed. Thank you for responding!
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I would say focus on yourself in this. Make yourself the priority. Make your individual life as good as you can - do things you love, pamper yourself, etc. Really know how great of a person you are and how deserving you are of this relationship with him. Think of all the wonderful things you have to offer someone in a relationship. Really get your self worth up there. Continue living the relationship you want with him in your mind, and don't worry about trying to "fix" your current reality. Don't worry about trying to make him miss you, etc. If you value yourself and can find happiness in your life without him, this will naturally make you really attractive to him. But don't do this for him, do it for you, simply because you deserve to be happy and to live an amazing life. Put yourself first and only offer him what you feel you want to give him when it comes to support/communication, etc. If it feels good to send love to him and respond, then do it. If it doesn't, don't. Don't worry about what he thinks and don't do things to try to get a certain response from him. Just work on you and attracting your perfect relationship. Reality is only a reflection of what's going on inside of you.
"I am receiving now. I am receiving all good things in my life NOW."
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Wow, Sunny I needed that exact response that you gave! Thank you so much. I promise I needed that encouraging reminder and every single thing that you said was so So true! I've been doing exactly those things that you mentioned-I almost "slipped" in trying to "fix" and "work on" the situation myself instead of seeing it Worked out-the way that it truly is :-) Yes, I needed that reminder. It feels so "juvenile" to question should you or should you not answer a call or text. This whole message was everything I needed. Thank you for responding!
No problem! Sometimes it's hard to see exactly what you're doing and how you're out of alignment 
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That's exactly right because I was really getting off focus and placing the focus on him and not so much on me and all that I've been doing FOR ME! And we know how hard it can be to get to the place where you are placing primary focus on you-spoiling you-enjoying you-investing in you-becoming the better/best version of yourself-for you-then BAM! Here it goes-"Overthinking" and taking the focus off of what's truly important. I'm glad I wrote the post bc I needed a good response from an LOA perspective.
Wow, Sunny I needed that exact response that you gave! Thank you so much. I promise I needed that encouraging reminder and every single thing that you said was so So true! I've been doing exactly those things that you mentioned-I almost "slipped" in trying to "fix" and "work on" the situation myself instead of seeing it Worked out-the way that it truly is :-) Yes, I needed that reminder. It feels so "juvenile" to question should you or should you not answer a call or text. This whole message was everything I needed. Thank you for responding!
No problem! Sometimes it's hard to see exactly what you're doing and how you're out of alignment
"I am receiving now. I am receiving all good things in my life NOW."
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