I think the answer to your question is all around the forum and videos and the internet.....it's because you are ATTACHED to one and not the other, therefore you GET the other and not the one you 'want'. So it's a paradox but to get what you want, you have to stop wanting it so much. You have to start BELIEVING it can happen and then just stop thinking about it too much. Take your notice from it and put it to other things that are here right now. You're attention to it being so 'distant' is also what is stopping it from coming. Not everything can happen right now in this exact minute, but that doesn't mean it won't happen. If you just relax and appreciate every wonderful thing you have right now in your reality, you will start to feel happy. That will draw new experiences into your reality that will make you feel happy. You will also be able to deal with not having everything you want right now because you have so many other things to be happy about. You got someone you could care less about but you should appreciate that you got them back anyway. You should look at them and appreciate them and then say 'wow, that's so nice' instead of giving out about them coming. That makes room for more things like that to happen and even though you might pass those up, you need to still see them as good things happening. One day the person who seems so 'distant' might just be the person you could care less about. That happens if you actually decide to let go, detach and see other things as equally as great. 
Take the 'bigness' of your desire down and start to see them as one of many, just a sea shell on a beach full of other sea shells. That will attract them plus the other sea shells. You need to start taking all the things that make them so special out of it so that you can see yourself as just as special. You need to be equal to your desire. It cannot be 'more' than you. You need to see yourself as deserving of a castle to get one. You clearly see yourself as 'more' than the person who did come back to you, so there's your clue of what you need to feel about someone to attract them back. 

mariposa00 wrote:

Well its not that im ungrateful that i attracted the person i could careless about. However he treated me really bad and just left and when he would reach out i would give him the cold shoulder and now 4 months later he admitted his wrongs. Now the person u can say im very attached to is because inwas the one in the wrong and im trying to make it right but it like as soon as i get that chance again i screw it up and now hes very reluctant. However he has many attributes about him and he has helped me to see the good in myself and also help me to be a better person. Im relearning to let go of him but im afraid he will loose sight of me all together he said he just wants to be friends but sont know what the future holds.

It's not about being ungrateful, it's about your focus. When this guy came back, you had the choice how to think about things. Now, you tell us how badly this guy treated you and stuff. Why? You could have told us how great it is that a person came back to you and by doing so, you had send out the message "more of this, please" to the universe. By complaining about a guy who treated you badly months ago, what do you think you will get next? Watch your words carefully.

It doesn't help to argue for your limitations. It doesn't matter who did something wrong. But if you still speak about it, you make it matter. Speak about what you want, not what was.

ShootingStar is completely right with her approach, you should listen to her.
 

One time where LOA worked like a total charm for me was a couple of years ago and my ex and I had had a really nasty break up. It was actually the second time we had broken up and it was based on something really unfair, while we were broken up the first time, I had been flirting with another guy and then when my ex came back, after two weeks, he heard about me flirting with that guy while we were broken up and he became so jealous and insecure he broke up with me again. Well, after a couple of weeks, I decided to gatecrash this party that I knew he would be at with a friend of mine. I just told myself over and over again before I left my house that I was the perfect girl for him. I told myself that about 20 times and then went to the party and I really felt good about myself. The party had some girls who were trying to flirt with my guy but I just kept my cool with my mantra in my head 'I am the perfect girl for him'. For the first little while, he ignored me, acting cold and distant. But after he had a couple of drinks, he started to loosen up and actually came over to me during the party and said 'You know, I hate what you did to me, but I can't shake this feeling for some reason that you are the perfect girl for me...' It was amazing, he literally said my mantra back to me and I didn't have to do much at all for it to happen except be there and keep that mantra in my head. We ended up kissing and getting very close and ditching the others at the party. It took a little while longer for us to actually get back together exclusively, but the fact that he went from telling me I was a b**ch and the worst person in the world and he could never be with me again to saying I was the perfect girl for him that night...it was pure LOA. 
 

I can totally relate to your "problem". I also have a guy who chases me like crazy even though I am not interested in him. But I am still thankful because there are women out there that do not have a single admirer. So it's also something good. 
It is not that you should "forget" about your person to let go of the detachment. But you must appreciate the other things in your life equally as much
For example, my guy texted me yesterday. And it was after I was so happy that my sister lives with me again and that I can share so much time with my sister. In that moment being with my sister was equally as great as being with him would be. And boom. He contacted me  

 

HisladyHislove wrote:

Now that's a very good way to think of it! I know I almost get "mad" that everyone else that I have (justified) reasons of being 0% attracted to can chase after me and run after me and see all the things in me that they just "have" to have, but it seems that "my guy" acts clueless and could care less! LOL. That is an awesome way to think of that! I'll try to start there and see it as good and appreciate it where I am instead of allow frustration to set in bc it's not what or who I want noticing me as I desire.

happygirl97 wrote:

I can totally relate to your "problem". I also have a guy who chases me like crazy even though I am not interested in him. But I am still thankful because there are women out there that do not have a single admirer. So it's also something good. 
It is not that you should "forget" about your person to let go of the detachment. But you must appreciate the other things in your life equally as much
For example, my guy texted me yesterday. And it was after I was so happy that my sister lives with me again and that I can share so much time with my sister. In that moment being with my sister was equally as great as being with him would be. And boom. He contacted me  

 

 

I higly encourage you to keep going. 
I wanted to attract my specific guy to post sweet messages on my fb page. But two other boys instead postet sweet messages on my facebook page. I knew Universe delivered my actual desire because guys posting sweet messages on my fb page is not something ordinarily. But however it was not my specific person so I kept going with my visualisations.yesterday, he did not post sth.  on my page but he commented a post of mine and invited me to meet up with him. So I am getting closer and closer )