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When I dontwant do some mistake agaiin in attracting his back and so I ask and analysis and I dont know relax
- Havefaith91
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The best thing to do right now is to go into a no contact period. Tell him what you want and do not settle for less than that. Do not allow him to use you for sex when you want so much more! Know your worth. Why are you scared to stand up for yourself? Do You not believe you can get him back? Because you can!!! You could use that no contact period to attract what you really want. In my opinion it is much harder to get that loving relationship when you have this reality staring at you right now. I figured out how much happier and loving i am to myself when i am not with mine. I have too many doubts. So i need to do some self work before i attract him back to me. Know your worth. You can have whatever you want!!!!
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I get it, so change your focus. It is all about mental discipline in which you train your mind to be more positive, that is really where the work is required, yes sometimes those bad thoughts creep in, but you need to remind yourself that you are okay within your present because your thoughts are not what is happening to you in that moment. For example, I can be reading a book and then the fear of him not coming back comes up. But it is just a thought and in my present time I am reading, so I will just let it slide and go back to reading. Mindfulness meditation really helps you become more aware of your thoughts and what to do about them. You are very much capable of having him back, I was able to do so after a lot of practicing and healing.
For a short period of time I was beginning to feel as though he hurt me and putting all the blame on him, ready to let him go. Until someone made me see just how wonderful of a person he really was. Even he says I have changed, and he loves how much I have grown. But I did not make him the center of my thoughts, what helped was changing my focus to me, with that I was able to notice everything that was happening in my life. I used to be as squishy as puddy and now I am a tough cookie, who is still sweet, but I know my worth and to never lower my standards. Please, make this about you. :Love ya!
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Havefaith91 wrote:
The best thing to do right now is to go into a no contact period. Tell him what you want and do not settle for less than that. Do not allow him to use you for sex when you want so much more! Know your worth. Why are you scared to stand up for yourself? Do You not believe you can get him back? Because you can!!! You could use that no contact period to attract what you really want. In my opinion it is much harder to get that loving relationship when you have this reality staring at you right now. I figured out how much happier and loving i am to myself when i am not with mine. I have too many doubts. So i need to do some self work before i attract him back to me. Know your worth. You can have whatever you want!!!!
But I still say him that I dont want sex. And I stop him and I said him that he know that I dont want friend with benefits or what. He it know.. but when I imagine that he write me or call me so I always attract it and so we have a contact andwhen he invited me out so he never said" hey I want go out because I want sex with you.." but when we are together so we speak and he huge me and kiss and he is horny and I think that it happened because I do RS. And when he invited me out so I wanted said him that I dont go out but when he called me so I always thought "yes this is time when he say me he want a relationship '' and so I went out with him and he dont said it.. and he only speak with me and huge nd kiss again.. and he work in different country so he is home a few days so he said that he cant have a relationship when he is away... but I imagine that he work in my country.. and I imagine that when he invite me out again so he will say he want a relationship...I believe.. but I believe so long time and still no change..and so I dont know say him no.(when he call me )when I always think that he call me because he finally say he want a relationship..yes I know my worth and I focus on me too but I know my vibration arent still on right way ....oou I hope that you understand my english:D
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Thread Starter- AceWay123
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I don't know about parallel world or whatever. All I know is that whatever you want, God does his side and I do my side, and then I get what I want. LOA is real. Visualize what you want, have belief/faith, let go of doubts, fears etc and take some inspired action or good actions that make you feel good... and then you get what you want.
No matter what it is, you'll always get it.
Afterwards, thank God/Universe whatever you believe in.
Watch when you get more to be thankful for.
Never give up.
There are different routes to the same destination.
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What do you think do some action? What I can do? I can only imagine, believe. and yes let go a doubts and a fear its my biggest problem..but I dont think that I can do more. What else action ?
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Thread Starter- tessy
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I might be mistaken but this article is not negetive at all, what I understood is that Lanie says that we should have our standards in place. As humans if we dont respect us...nobody will. There is no harm in putting your foot down and say "this is NOT what I want" and THIS IS WHAT I WANT" Where is the conflict here? I have done exactly the same thing for my Love...I was not ready to be a friend with benefit and when I wanted more he was not ready....so what did I do....I am in NO CONTACT since months....but is it the right thing to do? or I should have been hanging there are doing things as HE WANTS.....NO!!! I respect myself tremendously to take things as per he says, no matter how much I LOVE HIM.....I love him, I still do, but I am only open to that version of his where he loves me equally. This is where my LOA comes....I hope no more feeling bad 
And honestly Lanie's method has woked wonders for me, but only with people I HAVE NO ATTACHMENT with....it didnt work with my love as of yet....so I need to get rid of that ATTACHMENT and it will be done. Faith is what it takes. It is already done
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