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My ex's birthday is coming up very soon. We haven't spoken in over 6 months (things ended on a bad note) and last I knew, his current gf does not want us to talk to each other. I've changed a lot over this time. Should I send him a message? I realize this is reiterating what is, but it keeps coming up in my thoughts.
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You are the one who let it come up. Don't let your thoughts control you.
It's never about the action you take, it's always about how you feel when you take that action. Are you excited about sending him a message? Then do it. Are you anxious about it? Don't do it.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Sanshi is absolutely right!
Before LOA I was contacting my man stressed out, and nothing good came out of it. Now if I text him and I feel calm, I know the communication is going to be good only if I feel good. 
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Pretty interesting how that works. Thank you 😊
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So, in general, is it better to let them come to you or is it ok to talk to them if you're feeling good about it?
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In theory it doesn't matter. You can take both routes. But it's easier to live in your desired reality when your now reality isn't hitting in your face all the time. That's one reason why no contact is recommended.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Sanshi wrote:
In theory it doesn't matter. You can take both routes. But it's easier to live in your desired reality when your now reality isn't hitting in your face all the time. That's one reason why no contact is recommended.
I totally agree with this. This is what helped me heal. So yeah keep living as everything has fulfilled. Take action when you feel confident or comfortable with it. ( without expecting anything in return)
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It was his bday last Monday. We dont talk to each other for few months now. But I still sent a belated happy bday message to him via viber. He hasn't read my message yet as he is not always online with that number. I am currently blocked in his active viber number. But that's fine.
I just feel good sending him that message.
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If you feel you are ready, than do it. If you still feel uneasy about the situation than don't do it.
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