I agree with UnicornsAndJizz, daily affirmations are very important.
I am studying hypnotherapy in my spare time which is about changing your beliefs. The subconscious doesn't like change , it likes its comfort zone. So daily repetition of your new beliefs will eventually change the false beliefs about yourself .
Everyday find a few minutes to sit down and become deeply relaxed. Once you are in a nice relaxed state (Alpha) say these affirmations or make your own. -  I am beautiful, I am confident, Men love me, I deserve love, I love myself and I am attracting the love of my life.
Do it everyday.
 

Last edited by Cheer (9/30/2015 5:16 am)

You may put him on your affirmations if you like so. As a matter of fact, I've done it once and had a huge success within a week (we spent a weekend together with my friends as a boyfriend and girlfriend). Among other affirmations I affirmed myself that he loves me. It gave me such a great feeling, I was smiling all the time and really felt like it was true. After that wonderful weekend... I don't know what happened. I think I got obsessed and started to overthink. Also the great feeling from this specific affirmation stopped. I was just like "meh" and he faded away..
Getting this right happy feeling (vortex?) is the hardest part for me. I know that when I get there, I'll have all that I want. So right now I add: I'm blessed, I'm feeling happy etc to my affirmations.

Wish you good luck with yours

Meme wrote:

Cheer wrote:

I agree with UnicornsAndJizz, daily affirmations are very important.
I am studying hypnotherapy in my spare time which is about changing your beliefs. The subconscious doesn't like change , it likes its comfort zone. So daily repetition of your new beliefs will eventually change the false beliefs about yourself .
Everyday find a few minutes to sit down and become deeply relaxed. Once you are in a nice relaxed state (Alpha) say these affirmations or make your own. -  I am beautiful, I am confident, Men love me, I deserve love, I love myself and I am attracting the love of my life.
Do it everyday.
 

Should I keep these general?

If I want to attract a specific person should he be part of some of these to?

Yes,  First I state my self love affirmations to get me in a good place, then I start with the ones for the specific person. How much we love being with each other, how he is crazy about me and other affirmations like that.  This is a quote from Elizabeth Daniels from her book Manifesting Love :

" You have to love and respect yourself so that you can attract someone who loves and respects you. You have to love and respect yourself because it is impossible to feel good if you don't love and respect yourself.
If you don't think you're good enough to have a specific person in your life or you think that you don't derserve to have a loving relationship with him, you are preventing yourself from receiving both the person and the relationship you want.
You must begin to think about how wonderful you are. If you can only focus on one thing that's good about you, the Law of Attraction will give you more things you like about yourself. Start focussing on how great you are ! "










 

I struggle with the same. I also find remembering where the insecurity comes ffrom to be helpful. I realize a lot of things i ' falsely' believel about myself are really things that were programmed in my head when little. 
It's a constant battle but I have had success by reminding myself it's not the truth, it's just memories of the past nothing more. 

hope it helps
deelish'