dem0019 wrote:

What do you mean by asking for the wrong relationship? Did you just work on your vibration or did you visualize/use scripting etc? Just curious, I'm pretty new to loa. I hope we both get what we want as well  

When I say I asked for the wrong relationship, I mean that I wasn't as specific as I should have been. Before that, I had been very hurt by an ex who betrayed me and I gave up on love for nearly two years. When I was ready to date again, I asked the universe for a man to love and love me - I didn't care about commitment or marriage at the time, I just wanted to feel capable of love again. So I got in a relationship with a very sweet guy who was in love with me, and I loved him, but he was a total commitment-phobe. So I attracted a boyfriend but not somebody I could have a future with. 

After we broke up I again fixated on asking the universe to find me a new man. Not much later, an ex of mine from years before came up. I never would have thought that would happen and I didn't ever think about it but he never stopped loving me. I fell in love again, but after a couple of years it was apparent we weren't really right for each other. So now I'm being way more specific! 

(Oh, and I mostly worked on my vibration and listened to the Doreen Virtue Romance Angels CD and burned pink candles and made my desires known, back then. Vibration is essential but I find it hard to keep it high when I'm stressed out)

Last edited by Topaz (9/18/2016 11:57 pm)

dem0019 wrote:

Wow that's very fascinating. Are you working on attracting a specific person now or just a specific relationship? Do you think its better to focus on one person you want or just what you want out of a relationship in general? Sorry for all the questions!!  

I don't mind talking about it at all! Actually, I'm very  glad that you asked me yesterday if I've been successful with LOA and love, because I kept thinking of myself as someone who hasn't been successful in harnessing LOA in my love life, but then I recalled those two earlier relationships so now I feel more positive about my ability to attract love! Even  though I'm currently not where I want to be. I'm trying to attract my recent ex back but I'm finding it challenging. I'm asking the universe for him or someone better. To me that makes the most sense -- I do want him specifically but if somebody else came along with the same qualities, but ready for a real relationship, I'd be thrilled. 

dem0019 wrote:

It sounds like you have been extremely successful! Keep me updated! I hope I can be at that point one day. So I guess my issue right now is... My ex has some really amazing qualities. But towards the end, he wasn't attentive and didn't make me a priority. Is it possible that my mindset would make him attentive and loving toward me again? Or should I focus on attracting another relationship? Lately, I started doubting I could "change" him and he was only talking to me as a back up plan. I feared that I could attract him back but it would be the same. I'm assuming my own doubts caused this situation? I guess I'm debating whether or not I should give up on him specifically. 

Ha, I don't feel extremely successful since I desire this man much more than I wanted any of the others, but thank you for that! My friends tell me I'm too hard on myself so I guess this is another example. I've had some good luck with LOA - it's really helped my career and helped me get some amazing opportunities. People tell me I have a great life and I do, in some ways, but I want committed love and marriage and it's eluded me (so far). Life's setbacks hit me hard and I'm working on being more resilient, and keeping up my vibration.

From what I've read, you can definitely use LOA to help a man along in being better to you, and to you having a wonderful new relationship together. Have you read Lanie's books? She has that mindset for sure. It's hard not being a priority. I've been there too. My feeling is that would be best for you is to work on "him or something better." You two in a beautiful new love relationship, not a rehash of the old one, while also being open to a new guy. I know it's hard to think of others when you love somebody else but another guy might be even better, and having fun with someone can really raise your vibration. 
 

dem0019 wrote:

Well you have definitely been successful in the past so I think it's only a matter of time before you are successful with this! I hope we both find what we are looking for. Yes, I read one or two of Lanie's books and didn't have much luck receiving texts/calls from the people I wanted to hear from. But maybe I will give that another shot! Have you used her techniques? 

Thank you for all your encouragement, it helps me feel more positive! I've read two of Lanie's books, Pussy Whip and Burn With Desire. I think they're both really good, but they haven't brought me results so far. I know they're worked for a of other people, however. I think they're full of wisdom but this guy is stubborn! I'm going to keep trying. I found a LOA Youtuber that I really like that you might want to check out also. Her name is Agnes Vivarelli. She's very calming, IMO.