Topaz wrote:

Hello, I'm new to the forum and hope we all find true love. Like so many of us here, I’m trying to get my ex back. We went out for only a few months but I’m very much in love with him. We get along great, had a lot of fun and so much in common, never had any fights and had mind-blowing sex, but he is gun shy about getting involved after a recent extremely messy divorce. I think I scared him off with my intensity of feeling. He once let it slip that he loved me, then said he didn’t know why he said that. But I saw the love in my eyes and felt it in my heart. I still do. 

I haven't heard from him in five months. I've been working on myself and dealing with my own issues. like having an emotionally abusive mother and not-great self esteem. It's making me feel better. I have used the LOA with success for my career and getting material items for years now, but so far it's not helping me much with love. I've been doing RS for the last week but woke up this morning feeling that he is sensing my RS and is mad at me about it. Has anyone here seen success with attracting back an ex who's scared to get romantically close? I love him so much and want to make him happy and I know I could if he'd let down his guard. I feel sad and confused today and I know that's not good for manifesting. I wonder if RS can bring him back.

Good morning from my side of the planet! Rest assured that I am understanding your situation since I am somehow in your situation now. Not really 100% percent but somehow especially in the part where you really wanna have your man back in your arms.
This is just in my opinion and you can happily be open to it or not. In the end, it will always be our decisions that we will do/follow.
When you really wanna have your man back, you really wanna assess yourself first if you really do love him or not. I know you've felt the love and stuff like that but DO YOU REALLY LOVE HIM? Despite the fact that you guys had great things going on with you when you're still together at the same time all the uncertainties happening without your intention. Despite his worse and great side,  despite all the hurting things/words or happenings, despite the fact that YOU HAVENT HEARD OF HIM FOR 5MONTHS NOW, do you think and feel that you still love him? Without seein anything from him now (efforts, conversation, presence, anything!) Do you still love him? If yes, then ASK. Ask God to make a way for you. To make a way for you and your guy to be back together in a BETTER, HAPPIER AND HEALTHIER RELATIONSHIP and you guys being the BEST VERSIONS OF YOURSELVES. ☺ And TRUST AND BELIEVE that it will happen despite the fact that you are not seeing anything now. Cos I have just come to realize now that you not seeing anything now and ALL THE THINGS/SITUATIONS/WORDS happening or not happening in your life now is PART OF THE PROCESS! ☺Thats God's way of making your heartfelt wish/prayer to happen to you. In my opinion, let yourself feel all the longing, frustration, all the NEGA FEELINGS you are FORCING yourself NOT TO FEEL be felt cos if you do that, you are honoring your feelings. And when you honor your feelings, you honor yourself thus, YOU LOVE YOURSELF at that. And that is very rewarding since it's also a way and a gift of God to you as of the moment. Please dont listen to people who tell you that IT WILL ONLY DELAY THE PROCESS OF HAVING YOUR EX/MAN BACK when you feel, sad, lonely, hurt or blue. I fell for that trap! And it's never healthy to IGNORE your thoughts and feelings. It will just come out soon when you cant hold it any longer. Honor your thoughts and feeling whether how good or bad that is cos thats a part of the healing process. YOU CAN NEVER BE BACK IN A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BETTER-VERSIONED MAN IF YOU HAVENT HEALED FULLY. So allow yourself to feel and think all that is necessary for you to feel and think as of the moment. There will always be bad days/things/situations/thoughts/feelings that come to our lives but please just learn to EMBRACE it and shed some light to that by really understanding that it's a part of God's process/ways to deliver your prayers/request. Just trust on Him and yourself. Pray. Really pray hard cos we really cannot do it alone. Make Him/God your NUMBER ONE PRIORITY before yourself and many others and things will really fall into place. I hope this will help you since it really helped me a lot to face life, trust God and keep going. Much love and light to you! Sending all my prayers to you as well. 😘

LCR520 and EverythingisBeautiful, thank you so much for your replies. It means so much to me and was such a comfort! 

LCR520, I appreciate your advice. I do truly love him and want a better relationship with him - healthy, happy and full of love. What you said about all this being part of the process makes a lot of sense and I'm giving it a lot of though. I do think if it hadn't been for the breakup, I wouldn't feel the need now, as I have for these past months, to really look inside myself and examine what my emotional hangups are. I'm really striving to improve myself and be the very best version of me and I guess I needed this separation as impetus to truly examine it. And I'm glad you said to feel the pain. I've tried to ignore it as that's what so much LOA advice tells us to do. I'm crying right now 'cause I'm in emotional pain but also 'cause I feel happy that your advice rings true. Thank you for caring. I am praying for you too! 

Everythingisbeautiful, you gave great advice too. I feel calm just reading it. Thank you for the reminder to read those books. I have Ask and it is Given but it's been years. I'll have to dig it out and look again - it did really help me when I read it. I'll check out Neville's books too. I listened to one of his Youtube lectures and it made so much sense. You are a blessing and I'm grateful for your taking the time to advise me.