Hey Shootingstar,

I completely understand what you mean, and how you feel with regards to your question.  But I think that this is because, everything that is coming to you, is coming from your vibration response that you are offering.  The thoughts you think, the vibration of that is matched by LOA,  and things that match it comes back to you, so for now, while, you have found yourself and moving up the ladder of your happiness, he is still not a match to it, it could be the better you are getting, the further his match. I understood from one of Abe's video's that, when the vibration of 2 people don match, even if you live in the same house, you will not meet each other

So on your part, I think you are just doing great, attracting the best circumstances to yourself.

And another thing I forgot is the timing. I don't believe in universal timing, but I believe that we can have desires going on that we don't even know about and that make it necessary to manifest certain things later. For example: A few years ago in January, I thought "Wouldn't it be nice to go abroad for free this year?". I don't really had resistance, because it just was this nice thought and I forgot about it immediately. So why didn't it manifest the next day? Because it was January and of course I prefered to go, when it was spring or summer. My trip manifested in May without thinking about it again. I'm pretty sure that it took so long, because the season didn' fit. Maybe you have something going on, too? Maybe you enjoy your freedom too much right now and aren't quite ready to settle or something like this?

There is one thing about attracting specific people though that I've always had to do, and that's to actually make an action to initiate contact. Like, I don't really know if I've ever gotten my specific people from them just coming to me completely and asking me to hang out, I think for the most part I made the first contact with them. Like, when I first met I (the specific person) , I added him on facebook and after adding him, I asked him for his number, and after that (months later), I texted him out of the blue to ask him to do me a favour. I initiated and took action and it worked out for me. If I don't take action on opening communication, it doesn't work out. I think it's because by opening line of communication with my specific people, I show confidence and they are attracted to that. By making the first moves I show that I'm sure I know what I want and what I'm doing. 

I honestly feel like the universe is sending me things to do with my relationship with I that are still slightly bobbing in my vibration towards him. I have a nervous-y feeling about him sometimes, I don't always feel great about him sometimes and then the universe sends me people to tell me he's not that great and an article about emotional abuse. I. definitely had a strong hold on me and he did make me feel both beautiful and ugly to the extreme. Also, I came across a story just yesterday of a woman who tried to make contact with her ex for 2 years but then he became very very cold and cut her out of his life completely, only to re-emerge 2 years afterwards to tell her that he had to be cold and cut her out because he didn't know what he wanted and he didn't want her at that time but now he's more ready for her. She wrote this in an LOA forum. She said that after trying to write him letters and make contact, she eventually just decided to give up and left the LOA forum she was apart of but decided to write this post just to let people know that she did actually end up attracting him back. Her vibe as she wrote the post was semi-excited, she seemed more excited at the fact that LOA seemed to work for her than she was that he was interested again. I think she said that she might give it a chance but she hasn't fully decided yet. I read another story afterwards then on another kind of forum talking about exs coming back of a man who's ex had just re-made contact with him after 5 years of no contact and how he's pleasantly surprised and thinks he will give her another chance. 
I know that I sometimes get angry when my contact is ignored and I get frustrated and sad but then I remember years ago doing the same thing for another ex and being ignored until I just gave up and moved on to someone else, only to have the ex come back to say 'I wish I had just listened that time you kept trying to ask me to come back...I really regret not listening'. So it made me realise that just because people aren't acting the way you'd like right now, doesn't mean they won't change their mind. In fact, I know that as people, all we really look for is someone who really does seem to just care and give a sh** about us at the end of the day. I do feel that my efforts which aren't being recieved well right now will be remembered in the future and set the foundation stone for a rekindling. I feel that I. will turn to me one day and say 'I know you cared about me and I was cold, but I didn't know what to do back then, but I'm really grateful that you cared and I'm ready now' or something along those lines..
Because I have other exs who I dumped and after I dumped them, they just sort of disappeared and in a weird way, I desire them less than my ex who I dumped who consistently showed he wanted me back for a while after but now seems to have stopped...because sometimes when we get tired and lonely and sick of the chase, we realise that we just would like someone who has proved to us that they actually care about us but also has a good happy vibe about them and are leading a good and fulfilling life. Because obviously no one wants someone who's needy and desperate for us and seems to have let themselves go downhill.
To answer your question on whether we'll still want them when they come, I realised that actually attracting someone specific ends up sometimes being a double edged sword. To get the person, we sort of have to allow some of our stronger feelings towards them die a little because its those stronger feelings that are causing us resistance and adding to a thought bubble of 'I realllllyyy want him....' which isn't what we should to be vibrating to get them. But then that does mean that when they do come back, we won't feel that strong feeling towards them anymore, it'll be like starting again a little from scratch. We'd need to just stick it out and see if our feelings will grow again for that person. Also, they are super likely to come back if we meet someone better, it's a fact. But they are just as likely to come back when we can finally look at them and feel barely anything. I've also been guilty of being that ex who tries to get back someone I dumped when I see them moving on and not caring about me so much anymore...